On 8/23/05, Regi P George <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > I have a strong disagreement to this book after reading it! First of all the > wordings do not like Nalini Jameela a 3rd standard educated women is > speaking! It reflects more on I Gopinaths views and opinions than a Sex > Workers Opinion! I think Nalini Jameelas life realties went to a pro naxel > left illusion by I Gopinath! This proves a sex worker is not only exploited > for sex and abuse but for her life and biography also can be exploited!
Dear Regi, U have the right to disagree with the autobiography of Nalini Jameela. But It must address the questions raised by her. In u'r disagreement u are simply creating a fog on the authorship to oppose the the content of the book. For this purpose u are creating following equations Nalini = 3rd standard education. (i.e language of her book is not her) I.Gopinath= Pro Naxel left ( added naxal illutions on her story) The usge of not educated & Educated binary it giving importance to gopinath. By usage of the much exploited architypes of 'Pro Naxal left' & 'anarchism' It distroyes the space of discussion on the content. I know Nalinichechi Personally.The Problem arises here is mainly because considering sexworkera as "the other".The people who talked with nalini can understand how she addresses the questions. > Look at the cover (I will scan and attach for you) I don't know whose > mistake it is Ravi DC or Nalini Jameela or I Gopinath! Name of the book have > a big spelling mistake. When you write the word Thozilali (Labour) in > Malayalam as a single word normally it needs only one "tha" here on the > cover of the book it is the second "tha" of a thatha (parrot) used! I dont think it is a big matter > The book mostly speaking about free sex; its convenience and happiness in > many chapters, it demands for open houses where people can come and have sex > with anybody! In reality it lead the civil society to utter anarchy! Is our > society matured enough to adopt or change to anarchism! Or it will make our > society more efficient than the existing system? Or do it will change the > inequalities of the society? If no then for what reason we have to shift to > anarchism only for sex? Then we have to redefine our society! Neither > society is based on sexual need nor sexual need is based on the shape of the > society! Most of The Manifestos and Religions didn't addressed sexuality or talked only abpout controlling it. Why we are fearing on hearing about free sex? We, always taking about all primary needs of human other than sex. Why our shapened morality fearing in front of a woman openly talking about free sex I dont think talking about free sex is an anarchism. If It introduce a sexuality discussion in kerala i believe nalini's autobiography did its job. > After Nalini Jameelas long speech about anarchism she concluded the book by > saying she is very happy that her daughter got married to a good boy who > know her well and he knows Nalini Jameela and her profession! In the book > she or I Gopinath is giving lengthy lecture against marriage and family life > and end of the book when it come to her daughter Jameela is very happy with > daughters married life! Jameela herself married 3times and failed! I remind you It is an autobiography. She is also a part of the existing patriarchal system. Is u'r problem lies on Nalini's lecture on family or her daughters marriege? > Another point is Freedom of Choice in Sex! She is professing freedom of > choice in sex only prostitutes have and a prostitute is the only one who can > have a child of the one she likes! I request u to use the word sex worker. It is also as u r doing with hand leg or brain > This is not the fact and reality of a sex > worker in Kerala! (Any lady can desire a child of the man she like and for > that I don't think she have to be a prostitute) A commercial product never > can provide you freedom of choice! In my opinion freedom of choice is very > limited to a sex worker! Freedoms of choice that term it self-have any > meaning more than a choice between Cola or Pepsi; A choice between Nalini > and Jameela? I have seen licensed Indian red streets very near to my working > place! I have seen it in the day's curfew for long days! I know how hungry a > prostitute will be. I don't understand what kind of freedom and freedom of > choice she enjoys! Why r u keeping silent about the freedom of choice that men enjoys? What i understood from Nalini's argument is the freedom of choice for a women sex worker is better than the "Sathi's" & "Savithry's" Dont forgret that Sex worker is a creation by the Privileged men in patriarchal society. It always kept Sex worker away from Mainstream > I don't know coincidently or purposefully book is bringing Narmada, Medha > and her agitation into the book! Is it not a part of taking advantage out of > these struggles and some mileage to the book? Is it duty only belongs to the so called "Samskarika Nayanmar"?. > My disagreement to the book does not reflect my sympathy to the pathetic > life of a sex worker I am sympathetic to the plight of a sex worker! Whom > our society cannot see as a part of it or a by product of our great glorious > 5000years old civilization Along with Dalits and tribes sex worker also do > not have any space in Keralas civil society based on false egos and lies! Sex workers dont need sympathy. They are asking for Recognition. There is no need of Sympathy towards Dalits and Tribes. They are claiming their rights. Sympathy Emerges from a Feudel mind and Treating dalits as "the Other". Work with them Support their movements. It is the role of people like u. > It is a must to legalize the sex work! Like a political party or a trade > union or a religious organisation sex workers must have a legal protection! > This is the only way to stop forceful sex work! A sex worker must have some > rules and regulations like regular medical checkups and some sort of govt > support to keep them not going with more people in less time! Sexworker > should be included in the category of unorganized workers and all benefits > of that category should go to a sex worker also I support u. ~Regards Anivar Aravind
