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*I WAS Molested*
IN THE DELHI METRO

*I TAUGHT HIM A LESSON HE'LL NEVER FORGET*

It was a Saturday afternoon I had lunch with a friend in Gurgaon before I
decided to head home. The metro for those who do not take it or belong to
Delhi can get crowded and air tight to an extent that the Tupperware guys
could take inspiration. I luckily managed to find a seat till Rajiv Chowk
metro station (Connaught Place) where I had to change my train. The doors
opened... Btw I was in a regular and not the women's only coach - why is this
little detail important for this post? Well the answer lies ahead.

So where were we? Yes, the doors opened and people began to flood in. I
tried to push and nudge my way out but no luck. With a huge sigh I decided
to get off at the next station - New Delhi. As I positioned myself close to
the exit door I felt a sense of unease run through my body, like someone
has pierced their gaze on me or someone is watching me. Suddenly I felt
something touch me from behind. With half my mind on trying to get off at
the next station I turned thinking it was someone's bag or hand touching me
repeatedly. I turned to see a man in a white kurta (long shirt) staring
right at me and he had no baggage with him. In fact both his hands were
clenching the railing next to him. But if both his hands were up there what
was it that... I got my answer as soon as I lowered my sight. There beneath
that long shirt I could clearly see that this man was UNZIPPED. I felt the
blood rush to my head, boiling and fuming and fury ran through every nerve
in my body.

Within that fraction of a second every single eve teasing incident, every
darn face of those guys who had the guts to molest someone I know flashed
in my mind. Before I knew my voice escaped my lungs and there I was
screaming at the man who dared to mess with me.

'KYA problem hai?' (What is your problem?)
'Kya samjh rakha hai saale?' (What the hell do you think?)
'Himmat kaise huyi teri?' (How dare you?)

These were some of the things I uttered looking right into his eyes. He was
startled and started blabbering that he is sorry and insisted that it was
his hand that touched me by mistake. Your 'HAND' that comes out from your
pants? How the hell was your zip open? I was screaming in a coach full of
men and women. Did anyone come forward to help or even displayed basic
courtesy to ask me what was wrong? The answer was a big unsurprising NO. I
turned and spotted two men in fact smirking at me. Their silence tried my
patience and ALL HELL BROKE LOOSE.

I held that (namesake) man's collar and dragged him out of the train. He
was on a loop mode 'It was my hand, it was a crowded train'. The moment we
set foot at the platform he managed to escape. I ran, with all the strength
and courage in me, I ran after him making as much noise as I could. A few
saw (the tamasha), the others gasped while one man in the uniform began to
chase him. I went towards the other side and we managed to get hold of him.
I yelled again How dare you? How did you dare to touch me? People like you
make Delhi a nightmare for girls? You make us question every time before we
step a foot outside. HOW DARE YOU?

People watched the guards dragging a man to the control room and a girl
screaming at him. They only watched.

As we took him to the control room he told the police that I am mistaken,
it was his hand that touched me by mistake and it could happen to anyone
because it was a crowded train. "Ask her... it was my hand", he said. 15
guards, all men turned towards me as he tried to shame me. But if he had
the guts to do it I had the spine to say it. You see anger brings out the
strength you never thought you had in you but in my case anger brought out
a language I never thought I could use. I was outright and I had all the
right to be - "Lift up that kurta and you will know exactly what touched
me". There. I said it out loud and clear. The guards felt outraged and
charged at him. Within seconds he begged for an apology and suddenly the
hand in question transformed into a part of his body he wished he never
had. "Why would this girl lie? After all she is taking the blame on
herself", said the police officer to the criminal infront of me. He
committed the crime, I raised my voice and yet somehow the shame was on me.
That statement reflected the thought process of our society, in fact it
said much more. I argued with the officer and told the man in question that
I have lost NOTHING in this entire episode and in fact I will make him pay
for this. He immediately begged for an apology and I instead, insisted to
file an FIR. After a few calls, 5 friends of mine reached the station to
back me up and how? They were equally angered and showed no mercy.

We moved to Kashmere Gate police station and I slapped a sexual molestation
case against him. He was arrested and put behind bars immediately. I
decided to not let this one go and appeared at the court on Monday to
record my statement in front of the magistrate. Meanwhile this man has been
moved to Tihar jail and will spend his time behind the bars until he gets
bail.

You see there are several measures being taken to make our public spots and
transport safe. Someone asked me as to why I did not take the women's only
coach? But honestly that's not a solution. These reservations in fact paint
the idea that it is not ok or safe for women to be in public spaces. It's
debatable, I know but are reservations really improving the situation? Then
what would?

I think the answer lies within us. Unless women put forward that is not
OKAY for someone to touch and get away with it, nothing will change.

I could just bite the bullet and accept that I was eve teased or molested.
Or I can raise my voice and instill the fear in the criminal instead of
victimising myself. If this man has the guts to unzip in a metro full of
people, he probably started off by doing something less offensive to
another girl. Her silence was his encouragement. Remember every time you
choose to ignore or walk away, you put someone else in danger.

So I urge women to respect their body and know that it's okay for you to
say that someone touched you without your consent and you have to muster
the courage to reach out to the police. I insist please for the sake of
womanhood - SPEAK UP!

By Megha Vishwanath



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