Greg,
Im bitterly disappointment to read in a community forum the
transposition of a person's name into a pejorative.
A casual awareness of the seriousness where this occurs commonly should
make it clear why such techniques are used sparingly.
Personally, as somebody who has made numerous faux pas (including bourne
by positive intent towards people I admire and love), I find the
accumulation of guilt and shame tiring (at least it usually deters /that
specific/ failing from occurring again).
However, Id prefer to suffer numerous things rather than use the wording
I read within quotes - even if wrapped in irony -- the risk of harms is
too great and disproportionate in these circumstances.
In a public forum, the context, motivations or inexactitudes from those
words can have a life beyond the typing and original readers.
More obviously, not only could it shake a target's dignity in ways
serious but at a community level corrode hard fought courtesies.
You have no control over how others will internalise words expressed in
frustration - unfortunately this requires either active self policing to
avoid harm or the need to add clarifications where necessary.
Please apologize.
Jonathan
