Hi Fran,
I think you are so right with this. One of the lists i am on, wich covers my
favourite area is so hustile and unpleassant that i hardly dare to post to
it. It is such a shame because its the same people that behaves badly, and
they aught to be taken out of the forum. And the list administrator is much
two friendly regarding these bad behaviours.
Wont give any names....
Because of this situation, the list is nearly dead now!
Bjarne
----- Original Message -----
From: "Lavolta Press" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: "Historical Costume" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Sent: Monday, March 20, 2006 6:33 PM
Subject: Re: [h-cost] Re: h-costume Digest, Vol 5, Issue 269
>Communicating in the manner of this list leaves out the standard
>communication tools we have when speaking with someone in person or even
>on the phone. They are just words on a screen and not tempered by
>someone's tone of voice.
So is every written communication, back to the days of clay tablets. Email
is not new in that respect. It's just a letter.
> As for using 'in my opinion' to preface a comment - personally, I am no
> expert, and based on what little research I have done any comments
I > have are merely an opinion based on that research. I know this. By >
saying 'in my opinion', I am stating in a short addenda "This is what I
> think based on what I have learned so far. If anyone has more >
information I would love to hear it". Then it is up to me to accept any
> other information tossed my way. It also says "I am not claiming to
be > an expert". I think this is a generally accepted interpretation of
> such comments.
People's expertise can, and should, be judged on what they say about any
given subject at that given time. Not on whether they explicitly say "I am
an expert" or "I am not an expert." Whether the person thinks they are an
expert or not is irrelevant, as is whether their friends think so.
And of course, in a public group other people are likely to respond to
whatever you have said. You don't need to explicitly give them the right
to do so. You also don't need to "accept" everything everyone else says
in the sense of agreeing with it.
>As for no real friendships and women constantly seeking to stab one
>another in the back while smiling on the surface - either you grew up in
>a very snide and catty atmosphere or I grew up in an unusually amiable
>one.
I'm not talking about the atmosphere I grew up in, or the people I know
"in the flesh" either socially or professionally. For both of which which
I am deeply thankful. I'm talking about what I see on the net every day in
some e-groups, a social dynamic I've never seen before, at least not at
nearly that level. H-costume is much better than most.
Fran
Lavolta Press
http://www.lavoltapress.com
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