I especially appreciate your thought, Liadain. Thank you! Kayta was a
close personal friend for years. . . we had many fabric store runs
together, many fittings, and many thrift stores. Boy did I learn a
lot! Kayta was a fearless pattern-maker. She'd slap some paper on her
dress form and begin patterning on the fly. Or on me. Or have _me_
pattern on _her_. Everything she knew about sewing she practically had
to invent on her own, since she didn't grow up with the skills. She
was fond of telling about getting a copy of Milia Davis' costume
history when she was 8 years old-- and it had been rebound once since
then.
If you ever went over to Kayta's for costume-related planning or
making, heaven help you-- every question would result in an open book
being plopped into your lap, turned to the appropriate photo. You had
to read _fast_, too, because another book would be sure to follow. And
another. . . and another!
I'll always think of her in thrift stores. I shared her "joy of the
hunt," and we pawed through a LOT of places. Pretty soon I'd hear "Oh,
Marjorieeeee!" and Kayta would hold up some particularly egregious
example of a froggy artifact, grinning. "I''m being kind-- I'm not
going to BUY it for you," she'd say, "but you needed to know it
existed!"
Anybody know any costumers in Santa Barbara? I've lost my bestest
fitting buddy!
== Marjorie Wilser
=:=:=:Three Toad Press:=:=:=
"Learn to laugh at yourself and you will never lack for amusement." --MW
http://3toad.blogspot.com/
On Nov 8, 2010, at 4:46 PM, Tracy Thallas wrote:
May her memory be everlasting, and may it bring joy and comfort to
all who
knew and loved her...
Liadain
Practical Blackwork Designs
"You get a wonderful view from the point of no return..."
http://practical-blackwork.blogspot.com
http://practicalblackwork.com
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Sent: Monday, November 08, 2010 5:34 PM
To: h-costume
Subject: [h-cost] Fwd: R.I.P. Carolyn Kayta Barrows
[Penny Ladnier] Forwarding this about Kayta. She was a h-costume
member for
years. Kayta sure will be missed.
She is survived by two daughters, Eileen Martz, Eleanor Martz Gomez,
Eleanor's husband Paolo Gomez, her "little" brother Gary, his wife
Sabrina, and their children, and her mother.
According to Eleanor, Kayta's stated wishes were that she did not
want a
funeral or big memorial service. As an alternative, I would suggest:
Have a small gathering of friends, and serve caramels and
butterscotch
flavored items. Kayta greatly enjoyed butterscotch pudding.
No matter which group Kayta was in, she was frequently a teacher. In
S.C.A. and science fiction fandom, she taught hand crafts such as
embroidery, hand sewing, and provided information on how to be a
better
costumer. For Dickens Faire, some remember her for helping them
learn
how to dance. So, if you have something that you can teach others,
do
so. It doesn't have to be hand crafts. Just share your knowledge
with
other people, and that will be a memorial to her.
If you have a historical park in your neighborhood, help it out.
See if
they would like some historical re-enactors to put on period
appropriate
events. Kayta was involved with the Hyde Street Pier in San
Francisco
where she created period appropriate events, one of them being a
Suffragette Protest in March, I believe. If someone local could
step in
and keep events alive there, that would be a living memorial.
One of the best gifts that Kayta gave me was that she was
diplomatically
honest with me when no one else would tell me things that I needed
to
know. I encourage others to do this with someone that others may
find
difficult.
At this point, Kayta's daughters have not stated any particular
wishes.
If people want to send condolence messages, I will forward them. I
do
not feel right publishing their e-mail addresses at this time. If
anything is stated, I will let people know.
__________________________________________________________
Penny Ladnier
Owner, The Costume Gallery Websites
<http://www.costumegallery.com> www.costumegallery.com
14 websites of fashion, textiles, & costume history
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