veretest <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu,
I pray that this reaches you in the best of health and Eeman.
Beware of falling in love with appearances; such love is beset with
anxiety and perpetual misery. It is a blessing for a Muslim that he
stays away from messages found in lyrics and music, messages about
ardent love, unrequited love, or separation from one's object of
love.
"Have you seen him who takes his own lust [vain desires] as his
[god], and Allah knowing [him as such], left him astray, and sealed
his hearing and his heart and put a cover on his sight." Surah Al-
Jathiyah � Ayah 23.
In reproaching himself, an Arab poet wrote the following:
"I am the one who has brought death a knocking, then who is to blame
when the murdered is the murderer."
He is blaming himself for the perpetual pain and misery that he
experienced, finally recognizing that by falling in passionate love
and then by not being able to fall out of it - he alone was to blame
for his woes.
"And if an evil whisper comes to you from Satan then seek refuge
with Allah. Verily, those who are Al-Muttaqoon [the pious], when an
evil thought comes to them from Satan, they remember [Allah], and
[indeed] they then see [aright]." Surah Al-Ar'af � Ayahs 200 � 201.
Ibn al-Qayyim expounded on this topic in his book The Disease and
the Cure. He mentioned a number of factors that contribute to one
falling hopelessly and uncontrollably in love, among then are the
following:
1. An empty heart that is bereft of love for Allah, remembrance of
Him, and fear of Him.
2. Allowing one's eyes to wander and stare. The eye is a scout that
can bring back misery to the heart.
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze [from looking at
forbidden things].." Surah An-Nur � Ayah 30.
A look is an arrow from the arrows of the Devil. An Arab poet said:
"When you allow your eyes to wander ahead as a scout, looking at all
eyes and stares will then follow, seeing that which you are not
capable of embracing completely, while not being patient for getting
something partially."
3. Being negligent in worship - especially in remembrance,
supplication, and prayer.
"Verily, As-Salaat [the prayer] prevents from Al-Fahsha [i.e. great
sins of every kind, unlawful sexual intercourse, etc.] and Al-Munkar
[i.e. disbelief polytheism, and every kind of evil wicked deed.]."
Surah Al-Ankabut � Ayah 45.
Wasalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu
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