--- sutrisno <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > To: "sha" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>, > "Adrina Shamsudin" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>, > <[email protected]>, > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>, > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>, > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > From: "sutrisno" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > Date: Thu, 3 Mar 2005 09:02:46 +0800 > Subject: [Guru-Malaysia] Men & Women Should Read > This!!!Not Bapuk... > > Men & Women Should Read This!!!Not Bapuk... > Message: Malaysians are getting married at older > age. Why? > Let me give an example. It is a little bit long > example. If you > want to skip it, there is a summary at the end. > > Say you are a fresh graduate at that age of 23, a > male, starting a > carrier as an executive officer working somewhere in > KL with a salary, say RM2000 per month and > without any saving in the bank.Monthly, extracting > your expenditures on foods, > transportation (public or motorcycle),electricity, > water, phone, house rent and other > expenses, say you can save about RM800 the > most.Then, because you are a good son, you send some > money to your parents or relatives about RM300 per > month. This will give you a balance of RM500 of > saving. For the first year, maybe you are very > discipline with your budget, so you save about > RM5000. > > The next year at the age of 24, you meet a girl of > your dream. Both of you plan to get married after > one year or two. Ok, that's fine, it gives you time > to save some more money and some more > time to prepare the basic necessities for a 'happy' > family? a car and a roof to live under. > That year because you are a hard worker, you get a > raise of 10%. Since you are also a gentleman, you > make sure some money is put aside to spend on dates > and gifts for your girl, so 10% goes for > her. Like the previous year, after much sweat and > maggie-eating months, you save another RM5000.Your > company is doing ok. You are paid 2 months bonus. > So, another RM4000 is added to yoursaving.So, your > total saving now is RM14,000. You decide to spend > about RM8000 on a brand-new RM40,000 car down > payment. So, you net saving that year is RM6000. > > The next year at the age of 25, you are doing fine > at work. But because now you have to pay for car > every month, your total monthly saving is cut down > to about RM400. You save roughly about RM5000 that > year.No bonus that year because your company is > doing poor. So, your total saving in the bank is > RM11,000. Then, you decide to get engaged with your > girlfriend. She said OK. So, need to buy an > engagement ring. RM1500 is spent on ring plus > 'hantaran pertunangan'. So, your net saving that > year is RM9,500. > > The next year at the age of 26, you get > promoted.Your salary now is 1.5 of your starting > salary at the company. Good news! You think. "Ok, > this year I will get married". You also are > 'gersang' already. :) > > So, you ask your fiance "how much is the dowry > (hantaran)?" She say, "berapa-berapa yang u > sanggup". You ask,"RM5000 ok?". She replies, "I okay > je. Tapi my mom tu. Dia kata grad oversea > macam I ni mane boleh letak rendah-rendah. Paling > kurang RM10,000 tau!". Your eyes 'terjegil', your > tongue 'meleleh' and you faint on the spot. "Where > else in the world can I get extra > money?", you say to yourself. But, because you are > very determined to get married with your dream > girl and in the name of love, you work really really > hard that year until you are awarded > "The Best Employee of The Year". You get 3 months of > bonus.You also do some side business > to supply ayam pencen. So, roughly your net saving > at the end of that year is RM20,000. > > Ok, now you are 27 years old with enough saving in > the bank to pay for the dowry. But then, come > your mom saying,"Anak mak nak kawin ni mesti la buat > grand grand. Kita sewa khemah besar-besar,jemput > penyanyi ke artis ke sorang dua datang > buatpersembahan. Lauk pauk kita cater aje la > ya?RM10je sekepala. Baju kawin ko, kita sewa yg > cantik-cantik dan mahal-mahal sket.Kita jemput > dalam 1000 orang datang ok?" > > You did a quick > in-the-head-calculation,"1000xRM10=RM10,000, > penyanyi lagi, khemah lagi, buta-buta je RM15,000!!! > Tu tak masuk cincin kahwin lagi!!" You say,"Mak, nak > buat apa membazir-bazir duit ni?" Your mom > replies,"Apa pulak membazirnya? Kau > kawin sekali je seumur hidup. Biarlah buat > betul-betul." You insist,"Tapi mak?" Your mom says, > "Dahlah, kau jangan nak buat malu mak. Cik Tipah > jiran kita tu buat kenduri kat hotel siap dato, > datin, tan sri puan sri lagi datang. Mana la mak nak > letak muka kalau buat kenduri kecik kecik?". > > Anyway, you finally get married. But, a beautiful > happy life after marriage that you dream of with > your wife does not last long. You have debts around > your waist, interest gets higher every month, cannot > afford to pay them, you wife gets tired of you > asking money from her, she accuses you of being > irresponsible husband for not being a good provider, > blah blah blah? At the end, you two go into separate > ways?You get divorced. > > Problem breeds problem? Sometimes we wonder why > marriage institution is failing in our country. The > above example may not represent the whole phenomena > in our culture, but perhaps it gives us some ideas > of the problems young couple these days > are facing in getting married from my perspective. > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________ Celebrate Yahoo!'s 10th Birthday! Yahoo! Netrospective: 100 Moments of the Web http://birthday.yahoo.com/netrospective/ ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> What would our lives be like without music, dance, and theater? Donate or volunteer in the arts today at Network for Good! http://us.click.yahoo.com/WwRTUD/SOnJAA/i1hLAA/TXWolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> -------------------------------------------------------------------------- All views expressed herein belong to the individuals concerned and do not in any way reflect the official views of Hidayahnet unless sanctioned or approved otherwise. 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