~*~ Salman Wants to Get Married ~*~
wrote by someone
special dedicated to someone who is looking for his half of Iman
Seeing that his mother was in a good mood, Salman sat near her and
said, 'Mother, I have an idea which should bring you much joy."
His mother answered eagerly, "My son, all that you give me makes me
happy. What is on your mind?"
"You know," he told her, "I have finished my studies and can
afford to begin a family. I have decided to marry."
His mother's face brightened with a smile. "This is very good news! I
have long awaited such a day," she told him. "How often I have
wished you would marry one of your cousins. Praise be to Allah that
you have made this decision before it is too late!." Salman exclaimed, "Before it's too late? What do you mean?" "Your cousin
Maryam is now old enough to marry. Every day there is someone
visiting her home, seeking her hand."
Salman sat silently for a moment and said, "Then why should we
bother her suitors?"
"What do you mean,
Salman?," asked his mother, dismayed.
"My cousin Maryam is not fit for me."
"Why not? No, my son, you're mistaken. I shall go and see about
your engagement tomorrow," his mother told him.
Salman frowned and said, "No, mother. Please do not do such a
thing. I will not agree to this." "When she becomes your
fiancé, you will feel love for her. Put aside your fears. Maryam
is beautiful, and she has a respectable job."
Salman disagreed, "No. This matter only concerns me."
Salman's mother thought for a moment and said, "If you dislike
Maryam, then there's my brother's daughter. She is as beautiful as
Maryam, and she has inherited a large sum of money from my brother.
"Mother, please think about this matter from my point of view. I need
someone to share my life, not a business partner."
His mother became angry and sharply asked, "What's wrong with my
niece? Why isn't she good enough to be your wife?"
Salman
replied, "She is not a practicing Muslim. I want a Muslim
wife."
Salman's mother laughed sarcastically and said, "You speak as if you
were an angel who could only marry another angel. Why don't you stop
saying such nonsense, my son? You are an educated young man, you
should give up your impossible ideals."
"I am neither an angel, nor do I seek a saint for a wife. I am a
Muslim believer looking for a girl who also believes in Islam."
replied Salman.
Salman's mother told him, "I don't know any girls who share your
ideals."
He said, "I know someone who measures up to my expectations."
Startled by this admission, Salman's mother asked, "You know
someone? Who is she? Since when do you begin friendship with girls?"
Salman answered quickly, "I didn't mean that I know a girl
personally, but I know of her." "I see," she said. "You have already
chosen your wife. Who is this lucky girl?" "Mother, please be
more
understanding. I hope you will take my side and persuade father to
agree with my choice."
This appeal to Salman's mother softened her, and she said, "I
swear that I think only of your welfare. I'll help you. Tell me, what
are this girl's qualifications?"
Salman told her, "Nothing matters except the religious aspect. She
is Muslim, and wears complete hijab." "Oh, then she is
uneducated!"
"No, she has a high school education and her religious knowledge is
extensive."
Then his mother asked, "What family is she from? Do I know them?"
"She is from a good family known for their piety", Salman told
her. "Of what use is a well-known family if a girl has no Islamic
morals?" He silently beseeched Allaah to give him the patience to
overcome his mother's resistance. "A happy marriage doesn't depend on
fame or wealth. Happiness stems from spiritual nearness and mutual
understanding." Then, in a different tone of voice
his mother asked,
"What does her father do for a living?" "He is a grocer," Salman replied.
"A grocer?!", she exclaimed. "Yes. He is a grocer and a very
righteous man. He is the head of a happy and virtuous family."
Salman's mother interrupted him, "You are the son of a wealthy
man; with your college degree you wish to marry a grocer's daughter?
What a shame! Yet you ask me to assist you! If I had chosen the
daughter of a jeweler, how would you feel?"
His mother replied, "There is a big difference between a jeweler and
a grocer."
"The only difference is with regard to the substance. The former
sells rings and the latter sells sugar. Both work in order to earn
money," Salman answered.
His mother lamented, "Imagine your father's reaction to this news! "
Salman said firmly, " This is my desire, either you help me or I'll do
it myself."
He spoke so seriously that his mother laughed mockingly,
saying,
"Does the matter require a great effort? The least move you
make, they will give their daughter to you gladly."
Salman shook his head in doubt and said, "Wait and see!"
"What an odd situation this is! Am I to present my son to a
grocer's daughter? What special beauty does this girl possess to make
you blind to every other consideration?'
"I have not yet seen her," Salman said.
"Then how do you know she's not ugly?" asked his mother.
"I know she is not. As far as good conduct is concerned, physical
beauty is of little importance."
"Oh Salman, my amazement never ceases."
The next morning, Salman told his father of his intentions. His father
became angry, but Salman remained determined to marry the woman of his choice. Finally his father agreed and Salman asked his mother to visit the girl's home to make the proposal and overcome any obstacles.
The following afternoon Salman's mother, accompanied by his
oldest
sister, went to the girl's house. On the way there, Salman's sister
asked her mother what the girl's name was. Her mother replied, " I
forgot to ask him! "When they knocked on the family's door, they were
surprised to see a woman covered perfectly open it. The woman was
surprised to see the two unfamiliar women, but she showed them into
the living room and went to tell her mother that they had visitors.
Her mother welcomed the guests and waited for them to explain the
reason for their visit. After exchanging greetings, Salman's mother
asked who was who had opened the door. "It was my daughter, Zaynab," she replied. "Do you have any other daughter?"
asked Salman's mother. "No, she's my only daughter", replied her
mother. Salman's mother and sister were delighted to learn that the
girl was Zaynab. Just then, after put off her niqab Zaynab entered with coffee for their visitors and put off her niqab. She sat next to
Salman's sister and they soon found much to discuss. Then she collected the empty coffee cups and left the room.
Salman's mother began, "We have come with a blessed aim. We would be happy to have your daughter Zaynab as a wife for my son." She praised her son for his intelligence, his good looks and his wealth, but she neglected to mention his firm Islamic beliefs, which was very
important to Zaynab's mother. Therefore, Salman's mother was stunned
when Zaynab's mother shook her head slowly and said, "I'm very
sorry. It is difficult for me to agree to this proposal; in fact,
it's impossible." With much surprise, Salman's mother asked, "What
is impossible?"
"My daughter is still young. I'm sure your son can find a girl
who suits him." Salman's mother protested, "But Zaynab suits him well!
Would you be kind enough to justify your refusal?"
"I only have one daughter, and I should be sure of her future
married life."
"But Salman is
well-off financially," said his mother. "He is
a Doctor!"
Zaynab's mother replied, "Zaynab would not marry someone because
he is wealthy or has a college degree."
Salman's mother was at a loss for words. "Then what will ensure
your daughter's happiness and consent?"
"When a mother looks for a wife for her son, she should mention
her son's conduct." said the mother of Zaynab. "My daughter is a
committed Muslim. She wants a Muslim husband, and remember, my
daughter wears hijab, and your son may want a modern wife, who
dresses like his mother and sister."
Salman's mother laughed with relief and told her, "You're correct.
I haven't mentioned his conduct. I thought that other aspects of his
character were of more importance. My son is a faithful Muslim. He
is, in fact, looking for a wife who observes hijab. Be sure that my
appearance (un-Islamic clothing) is not to Salman's taste."
Zaynab's mother also smiled and said,
"You should have told me
earlier! Please give us your address so we can visit you and learn
more about your son."
"We hope you can come early next week," said Salman's mother.
Salman was waiting anxiously for his mother's return. As soon as she
and her daughter returned home he asked, "Well, mother? How was
your visit?"
"It was very strange," she replied.
"What was strange?", he asked. "Has anything bad happened?"
"Oh no, Salman. But I never expected such a thing," she
answered. "Then they have refused?" Salman's father said, "How could a grocer's daughter refuse a wealthy young man?"
Salman's mother turned to her husband and said, " They did, in fact,
refuse..."
"What! they refused?" asked the father. "I spoke about Salman's
good qualities, but I didn't mention his Islamic morals. My
appearance also caused her to decline my proposal because her
daughter is a very faithful Muslim. When I realized their
objections,
I told them that you are a true Muslim as well. I have come to
respect them very much. They don't care about status or wealth."
"Have you seen the girl?", asked Salman's father.
"Yes, she is very beautiful, lovely and polite. Salman is a lucky man to have made such a choice."
The following week, Zaynab's family paid a visit to Salman's home
and plans were made for the upcoming wedding. They were soon married and there was much rejoicing.
![Fatemioun Group]()
My Dear sister who overwhelming with sweetness of faith.
My dear sister whose heart captivate with the light of ma'rifah
My Dear sister who are reaching the peak spirit of learning
My Dear sister who thirsting of knowledge the deen
My Dear sister who occupied with the passion of worship
My dear nervous sister
.
Scared of accepting the wrong person who would extinct the enthusiasm flame
Scared of accepting the fake person who would destroy your ultimate dreaming
Scared of accepting the one who trapped your heart with another love
Who lead you astray
lost the blessing
the guidance
. The sweetness
The light of guidance that can't be replaced by the whole of world
The sweetness that can't be replaced with all the treasure
My dear sister
Allah will answer your prayers
.
Allah knows best your sincerity
Allah listen the crying of your heart..
Allah will always protect you
.
He the Only one you lays your trust
Your dreams of
The one who devote practicing mu'min
The one whose heart fixed upon remembrance of his Lord
The one whose tongue always moaning the beautiful name of Allah
The one whose eyes wakeful in the silent night tearing humbly closely to his Lord..
The one who love Qur'an
The one who instill the light of Qur'an in every aspect of his life
The one who love his deen more than anything
The one who proudly say Islam the only way that dominate his heart, mind and his attitude
.
The one who dream to die in that way fisabilillah
The one who love the sunnah
Must have beard [it must
that you said]
Must love to pray in mosque
The one who not occupy with the idle activities
The one who respect your veil
The one who will protect you from evil
The one who will accept you completely
The one who can see the deepest of your heart
The one who value what lies inside more than your facial beauty
The one who respect you as a partner of life
The one who trust you more than anyone
The honest one who will company the journey sailing in the ocean of life
The one who patience with your horribleness
The one who will give chance of self improve than blame of every details of your weakness..
The one who can keep smiling when advice you with the eye of affection and tenderness
The one who speak wisely words full of wisdom as support and encouragement
The one who will lead you to the beauty of deen
The one who will be the teacher of your life
The one who put you in the second of place in his heart after His Lord
You're yearning to be a queen of one's heart
.
The one who will put you always beside him
.never leave you behind
The one who lead you to the best destination of jannah
The one who will race with you to win the eternal love of the owner of the love
The one who will spark the water to wake up you for qiyamul lail
The one who will sit with every Monday and thurday for shaum sunnah
The one who will make your house full of blessing with his quranic recitation..
Simple humble
reliable
responsible and mature
who be whatever he is
My dear sis,
You found the behalf that will make you complete
inshaAllah
Your dream inshaAllah finally will come true
in very soon
.
Lahaula walla quwata illabillah
InshaAllah
He will in the first line to defense your honor
He will speak for the world
to protect you
He will help you from all the cultural ritualism
He will safe you from all those "stupid" ceremonies
He will there
as a real Moslem man
Who love his deen more than his culture
InshaAlalh
He is a strong man
To stop people drawing your face with those colorful make up
To stop replace your modest hijab with the most recent hair style
He will be there
To stop people force you wearing the tight fitting fancy dress
He will be there
To stop them put the sparking jewelry
InshaAllah
He will be there to make all people understand
He will be there
..beside you
Like an angle that Allah sends from the sky
To support you
to make you strong
Release you from the guilty feeling of reveling of your beauty
Release you from the sin of abusing the sunnah
He will be there
.
make sure nobody force you to do thing abusing the deen that you love dearly
InshaAllah
He will be there
.
He will tell all loudly
proudly
You are his wife
You will not let you go to the stage
like a cutie Barbie
His ghirah, his love will make you a precious pearl
As a Shield of your beauty from the stranger' eyes..
He will feel what you feel
You free from the duty of smiling to the strangers
You no need to sake their hands
You will not feeling like a real hypocrite reveal what you want to conceal
InshaAllah
He will be there understand every beat of you heart
Every dream in your mind
To life in the shade quran wa sunnah
My Dear sister who yearning the mercy of Allah subhana wata'ala
My Dear sister who yearning blessing of Allah subhana wata'ala
One has been decreed for you
You will accept what you deserve
Subhanallah Allamdulillah
la Ialha illah Allahu akbar
Barakallah wabaraka alaika wa jamaa baynakaum fi khair
PS :
My dear sisters you are marrying a human
He is not an angle
Nobody perfect
. You MUST find his flaws
.
It all about the journey to be tolerant
To give more than demand
Bandung, 15th May 2005
Rytha
![Fatemioun Group]()
Oh, Allaah, by your knowledge of the unseen and your power over all creation, keep me alive so long as life is good for me, and bring about my death when death is good for me! Oh, Allaah, i ask u to make me fear u in secret and in the open, i ask u to make me speak sincerely at times of contentment and at times of anger, i ask u to make me moderate in poverty and in wealth, i ask u for a blessing that does not end, contentment that never ceases, and for acceptance of your decree! i ask u for a good life after death, and i ask u for the joy of looking upon your face and the longing to meet u with no harmful adversity or misleading trial! Oh, Allaah, adorn us with the beauty of faith,guide us and let us be a means of guidance for others!!! ameen!
~sister Dina Istova~
