Re: Bismillah [hidayahnet] Re: Untungnya isteri dapat memahamikekurangansuami

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Betul tu... saya teringat pepatah Inggeris, 'Fight Fire with Fire' dalam konteks ini, it takes a woman who understand polygamy to reverse the misconception and misundertanding of the issue. Kalau lah ada ramai lagi mukminah seperti cik suria ni, tentu para 'al kafiruun' takut nak bersuara tentang feminis ruzaihan.junit wrote: Assalamualaikum warahmatullah... Suria, thanks for being such a good wife. I'm not your husband (hehe) but I'm so proud to know there's still a woman who can really understand what actually polygamy is... And the most true statement was that a man cannot love all of his wives the same way. Mesti ada yang dia sayang lebih. Nabi saw sendiri secara terang lebih menyayangi Aishah r.anha berbanding dengan isteri2 yang lain. Tapi, giliran tetap giliran. Syabas, Suria. Dan bagi saya pula, kalau isteri saya beri izin pun, saya taknak sebab dia sudah cukup sempurna untuk saya. Sebagaimana Fatimah Azzahrah r.anha sempurna untuk Saiyidina Ali ra. Untuk perempuan2 yang lain, ini contoh yang baik. Jika anda lebih mengejar kebahagiaan di akhirat. Wassalamualaikum warahmatullah... "suria"@hoespc11.na.x om.com To: hidayahnet@yahoogroups.com Sent by: cc: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Bismillah [hidayahnet] Re: Untungnya isteri dapat memahami s.com kekurangansuami 08/23/05 09:35 PM Please respond to hidayahnet Waalaikumusalam dan assalamualaikum untuk puan juga, Frankly speaking I am not against polygamy in fact I already had a right candidate. Kawan tu aja yang tak nak and tuan punya badan which is my husband pun tak nak, so tak jadilah. Kids all dah agreed pun, siap usik lagi ` daddy apa macam kita orang semua dah setuju ni, auntie tu kan best lah' I am not against polygamy as u said benda halal apa nak takut and I know my husband is the right candidate yang layak untuk practice polygamy. Sepatutnya isteri2 yang tahu suami mereka baik dan boleh berlaku adil kena awal2 bagi lesen pada husband untuk kahwin satu lagi. Sebab ada ramai lagi wanita yang bernasib malang outside there who need help. But of course all procedures must be met before such thing take place. Daripada beri lelaki yang tak bertanggung jawab memainkan wanita lain lebih baik bagi lelaki yang baik2 ( yang mostly dah kahwin) jaga wanita2 malang ni. And as I said tatacara polygamy ni mestilah mengikut sunah dan ajaran agama, kalau saja gatal nak cari perempuan dahi licin sorry beb. You know perempuan anak dara tua yang tak ada sedara mara ke, balu yang kena jaga anak ramai ke, so those who really need help. For me there is no such thing as nak rampas kasih/ berkongsi kasih or what ever it is lah yang jadi phobia pada wanita untuk beri keizinan. Just think it in a positive manner. Hidup kami bahagia selama ini why not share the same happiness with one less fortunate woman, let one ( one only lah lagi 2 qouta sure tak mampu ) unfortunate woman has the opportunity to live happy dunia akhirat too. As a human being we have abundance of love, we are able to love not only human but other creatures too. Tak luak kasih sayang suami hanya kerana dia kahwin lain. It's not that he has to cut his heart into a few portions. A very simple example is, when you two got married your love scattered around the two of you. When you had your first child you created new kind of love for this child. You don't give less love to your partner, the earlier love among yourselves is growing in its own way, and now you are creating new kind of love for this child. And the same goes with second child, you create new kind of love for the second child and so on. Don't tell me you love all your kids in same degree. Sometimes you love the first one just because he/she is very responsible person, the second one because he/she is the laughter in the house..etc…So there is no such thing as dividing your heart into a few portions for each of your loves ones. The same thing goes when he has new wife, he will create new kind of love for this new woman. Most men I knew who practiced polygamy said, love for the first one is normally deeper compared to the second one. Again ni case kahwin dua yang dah restu, kalau yang gaduh2 tu different feelings lah. When ever the husband fall sick or something, he would prefer the first wife to take care of him. Kenapa yek? Fikir sendiri. Ok sure kena fire lepas ni, but this is how I felt and of course every one is entitle for their opinion, setuju boleh baca tak setuju delete aja. Conclusionnya my husband tak nak satu lagi isteri, he said I want to live a simple life, tak mau pening2 tak larat. This is the second time I suggested him, tak leh suggest selalu sangat nanti dia kata kita tak sayang dia pulak…but think about what I wrote up there for a moment. Sahabat baik saya yang juga tok guru saya dalam pengajian hadith, selalu husband dia kata eh bila nak jumpa perempuan yang sesuai ni ya? I asked her, akak bagi ke ustad tu kahwin satu lagi? She simply said, kahwin ajalah apa salahnya.orang baik-baik selalu fikir yang baik2 aja.susah nak fikir yang jahat2 ni. --- In hidayahnet@yahoogroups.com, "amieyza_cute" wrote: --Asslamualaikum kepada temah seukhwah.. Mmg betul cakap anda... abis tu kalau dah jadi macam tu takut lah orang nak kawin.. nak tak nak kena jugak tempuhi... so saya rasa sepatutnya jgn lah terlalu memandang perkahwinan ni semuanya negatif.. pokok pangkal hati kita sendiri.. kita sebagai wanita bila suami dah berubah.. curang atau sebaliknya.. harus lah banyak berdoa.. bagi suami yg ura2 ader pompuan lain tu.. si isteri setiap malam banyakkan baca surah yassin.. insyaAllah suami kita akan kembali kpd kita dan anak2... tak payah2 nak berbomoh sana sini... Kalau nak tahu doa isteri ni betul2 mustajab.. suami boleh senang kerana siisteri suami juga boleh jatuh kerana isteri... bayangkan kelebihan yg tuhan bagi pada kita... kalau dah sisuami tu berkahwin lain redhailah ia.. walaupun dari segi kewangan dia tak mampu mungkin dari segi lain dia ok.. siapa tahu... saya pernah mengaji kitab berkenaan fiqh, isteri mendapat dosa besar kalau tak izinkan suami nya berkahwin lain hinggakan tahap tak bau syurga... bayangkanlah.. so.. nak tentang ker hukum tuhan... saya tak kisah kalau suami saya buat camtu.. sebab, bagi saya kita ader Allah... kalau dia rasa mampu tapi dia tak berlaku adil.. hanya tuhan saja yg dapat adili.. betul kata kaum adam.. kita siapa untuk menentang mereka.. mereka raja.. kita? tapi tgklah lelaki yg sejenis ni.. dia takkan bahagia sampai bila..2 dah tak bertanggungjawab, mematahkan pula hati seorang wanita yakni isteri.. lihat jerla dipadang masyar nanti.. saya bukan berdoa untuk keburukkan suami2 diluar sana... tapi kalau dah perbagai usaha kita lakukan tapi tak jugak membuahkan hasil.. Allah saja yg tahu.. Ingat!! walaupun kaum hawa nampak jer lemah sebenarnya dialah insan yang paling kuat memikul segala bebanan dunia.. jika tak hargai isteri sendiri samalah seperti tak menghargai dirinya juga.. kalau si isteri tak meredhai atas apa yg berlaku padanya disebabkan perbuatan sisuami tu sendiri.. Si suami pun tak layak masuk syurga tanpa keredhaanya ( isteri ). Buat isteri2 yg sama seperti saya, bersabarlah jerlah kalau dah melampau sgt.. pejabat agama kan ada.. ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Get fast access to your favorite Yahoo! Groups. Make Yahoo! your home page http://us.click.yahoo.com/dpRU5A/wUILAA/yQLSAA/TXWolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> -------------------------------------------------------------------------- All views expressed herein belong to the individuals concerned and do not in any way reflect the official views of Hidayahnet unless sanctioned or approved otherwise. 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