Ini lah yg dikatakan...manusia yg tak kenal siapa hamba..siapa Tuhan....
dianugerahkan IQ yg bijak (super genius)
tapi EQ, linkungan sosialnya amat bejat sekali
dan lansung tidak mempunyai SQ (Spiritually Quotient).
malah bangga membuat kemaksiatan yg merosakkan dirinya sendiri
ESQ165 Leadership Centre sudah menemukan jawapannya....
What is the purpose in life? we want happiness, but what exactly is long
lasting happiness?
Is it having the life partner of your dreams?
Is it having the best academic qualifications? best job?
Is it being the spotlight of the public and people praising and looking up to
you?
Is it to have time for both work and play?
at ESQ, they unveil all my doubts.
I knew i had a split personality problem. The cause is actually simple.
evryone has 3 kinds of intelligence, Intellectual Intelligence (IQ), Emotional
Intelligence (EQ) and the least talked abt Spiritual Intelligence (SQ).
· IQ
main capital: Materialism
root question: What do I want?
· EQ
main capital: Social
root question: What do I feel?
· SQ
main capital: Spiritual
root question: Who am I?
"ESQ stands for Emotional Spiritual Quotient. It is known to mankind that IQ
(intellectual quotient) is a necessary tool, but EQ (emotional quotient) and SQ
(spiritual quotient) are equally (if not more) important.
These three will create knowledge, skill and attitude. IQ alone is insufficient
to ensure success.
The Institute of Carnegie discovered, out of ten thousand successful people,
only :-
1) 1500 (15%) resulting from technical competency, and
2) 8500 (85%) are due to personality.
The Institute of Carnegie also discovered, out of ten thousand successful
people, yang dibuang kerja....dimana :-
a) 1500 (15%) resulting from technical competency, and :-
b) 8500 (85%) are due to personality.
So it's quite important to develop your emotional and spiritual quotient as
well. The training is focused on personal development through the integration
of the IQ, EQ and SQ, but pays special attention to the EQ and SQ. The
integration of these values would contribute to increase and improvement of
individual performance that would then lead to increase in productivity of the
world."
most of us study well (high IQ), network and socialize well (high EQ),
achieving success and wealth..but the real success is to achieve longlasting
happiness and thats where most of us leak..the Spiritual Intelligence
(SQ).Thus, in order for a person to be successful in life and after, is the
perfect balance and combination of these 3 intelligence. missing one or two or
even have all but unable to combine them well..will most probably be the cause
of split personality.
Then i realise..tts my weak point. Split personality creates a fake to mask
myself. and the reason why tt happens is because I only know spiritual based on
theory, not application.
Why SQ is so important? A religious person can be religious, does lots of
rituals but does not necessarily be spiritual. Tts y we see 'ustaz' acting cool
thinkin they r religious and hold high status in the society..we see pple
praying all day long but in their hearts are pride and the feeling of
exclusiveness..I once got a question from someone, "If smoking is makruh, some
say haraam..y do some ustaz still smoke?" see the picture?
the actual fact, it isnt the religiousness of a person tt determines his
piousness,its the strength of his spiritual instinct that makes him a humble
person on the face of this world.
The spiritual instinct is God's signature in man to make him feel that there is
a need to find Him. That y people go extraordinary ways to find 'Truth'. Some
by means of getting great education, some by great wealth, some by fame others
juz go with the flow..but the actual truth of happiness in life and after, is
to find Him.
We want to have sumone who is kind, loyal, beautiful, loving, wise and so
on..do we realise that every great character we want in man is actually the
same character of Him?
For example, some of us may want a loving wife/husband..isnt 'loving' His name,
'Ar Rahim/Al Waduud'?
or we want to work with a person who is trustworthy, isnt 'trustworthy' His
name, 'Al Wakiil'?
This theory being proven 1400+ years ago when Muhammand PBUH wanted to find
truth, and the first words of the Quran came to him, "Iqra..." "Read, in the
name of thy Lord..."
Y must we read in the name of God?
coz its His names (asma'ul husna) that are the true characters that are
pre-programmed in our hearts, thats y we are attracted to those great
characters (eg. the Powerful, the Guide, the Patient, the Wise).
if they are preprogrammed, why is it difficult for some to potray those pure
characters in themselves? Coz every child is born pure(fitrah). Each wrong
doings or sins aft maturity(baligh) acts like a single dot that paints and
veils the heart. Due to the countless sins we do, be it conciously or not, the
dots covers the heart and slowly turnin it dark and cold like a rock. Thus, the
pureness (nur) isnt able to be released or potrayed.
so in another words...is it still unclear that,every living person on earth who
has the drive to potray and attracted to good character..is actually attracting
him/herself to Him with and without knowing?
See the beauty of the Creator? Tts y not all religious people are spiritual.nor
do all spiritual people are religious.Why? coz religion can be passed dwn frm
generation to generations..but spirituality(iman) is something an individual
has to find and work on his own.
if u do understand the explaination above..thats juz the a little percentage of
the things the reveil in ESQ.
All thanks to Allah for showing me the way and opening up my blinded and long
hardened heart.
more to come insyaAllah.
Take time to THINK. Its the source of power.
Take time to READ. Its the foundation of wisdom.
Take time to QUIET. Its the opportunity to seek God.
Take time to DREAM. Its the future made of.
Take time to PRAY. Its the greatest power on earth
~Author Unknown
(taken frm the ESQway 165,by Ary Ginanjar Agustian)
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Genius turned hooker Sufiah Yusof reveals how she drives men wild... by
reciting EQUATIONS to her clients as they have sex.
And the Asian beauty defiantly claims that selling her body for up to £1,000 a
time provides her with a far more glamorous life than she ever dreamt of when
she went to Oxford University aged just 13.
"My clients love the fact that I can stimulate their minds AND their bodies,"
she boasts in a shockingly frank interview with the News of the World.
"And I don't believe my education has been wasted--in fact I usually take
problem sheets with me to solve before appointments."
Sufiah decided to CONFESS ALL after we revealed how the former child prodigy
was working as a £130-an-hour prostitute while studying for a masters in
economics.
It is the latest heartbreaking twist to a life that seemed so full of
promise--but went tragically wrong when she cracked under the pressure of her
bullying father's cruel academic regime and fled university at 15.
Eight years on, he is now in jail for sexually assaulting two girl pupils and
Sufiah has somehow convinced herself that her seedy new career is the answer to
all her problems.
"People think escorting is sleazy and terrible but I don't see it like that,"
she says. "I've always had a high sex drive--and now I'm getting all the sex I
want--and guys are much better in bed with an escort than a girlfriend.
"I have men who are thrilled about my passion for mathematics. In fact one made
me recite equations while he pleasured me, then I gave him oral sex while he
chatted about algebra. It drove him wild."
And brainbox Sufiah has worked out that subtracting your respectability to
become a prostitute can equal big money.
Peeling
"I have a nice life and I am in control," she says. "I hate this stereotype
society has of escorts being exploited. It is so far from the truth.
"My clients treat me like a princess. One guy I see in London took me shopping
on Bond Street. He bought me a beautiful black Gucci dress for £700 and then
took me to Selfridges and told me to pick any handbag I liked."
She chose a £600 Gucci clutch. "I'm a Primark and Topshop girl normally! I felt
like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman.
"Later that night we went for dinner. I wore my Gucci dress and sexy lingerie
and took great pleasure in peeling it off for him later on back at his hotel."
Sufiah was working as an administrative assistant earning £ 16,000 a year in
Manchester when an escort agency boss approached her in a bar four months ago.
She'd run up debts of £3,500 in rent arrears and credit cards.
And she was still haunted by her hellish childhood--subjected to her father
Farooq's Accelerated Learning Technique where she studied maths day in day out
in rooms kept freezing cold to improve her concentration.
So the big rewards the agency boss promised seemed more than tempting. "I have
studied so intensely for so many years I wanted to have fun," she says.
She can't see the sordid side of prostitution--and instead likens herself to
Belle De Jour--the saucy hooker played by Billie Piper in the TV drama.
"I'd read Belle De Jour's Diary of a London Call Girl and was fascinated," she
said. "When this immaculate lady in a designer suit asked if I had ever
considered escorting, I found it appealing.
"I went home, researched agencies on the internet and found one I thought
looked professional. I sent them photographs and they put me on their site." A
couple of days later Sufiah was offered her first client. She recalls: "I felt
quite nervous but excited too. I slipped on some black lace underwear and
stockings and suspenders and a dress, and just though, 'Wow, this is
thrilling.'
"He was waiting for me at the bar of the Hilton. I expected him to be older but
when I saw him he was lovely.
"He was only in his late 20s, tall and handsome. I thought, 'I can't believe
I'm getting paid to have sex with this man.'
"I'd have been thrilled if he chatted me up in a bar. We had a drink then went
upstairs to his room and had fantastic sex. I left that night feeling totally
elated having had an amazing time with £250 in my purse." Since then, she has
built up a base of regular rich clients and sees between five and ten men each
week. Her sugar daddies have treated her to fabulous clothes, designer bags,
trips on yachts and even helicopter rides.
Sufiah, whose interview can be seen on video at notw.co.uk <http://notw.co.uk/>
, brags that she can earn more than £1,000 in a night by having diner with a
client and staying over. "It's like they want to rescue me. One man asked me
how much I earned a year. I said £60,000. He told me, 'I'll pay that amount
straight into your bank and buy you a flat and you can be my mistress.'
"But I don't want that because I'm happy doing what I do. Now I wonder if I
could go back to a normal relationship, where you watch EastEnders and have
boring sex. I've got used to being treated like a princess."
It is as if she has run away from reality--just as she ran away from university
and her father's dominance at 15.
Sufiah becomes solemn and subdued when she talks of her upbringing. "As I grew
older I began to clash with my father," she says. "He was violent on occasions.
Because he pushed me so far academically, I became more confident for a girl of
my age. I grew up too quickly.
"From 11, I was studying maths all the time. I didn't have any friends. I
wasn't in the Brownies. My father said they didn't teach Muslim values. I
hardly ever played with other children."
She passed her maths A level aged 12 and started at St Hilda's College, Oxford.
"It was an amazing place but I was too young. By the time I was 15 I wanted to
be in control of my life. I fought back."
Sufiah sparked a two week nationwide police hunt when she ran away instead of
going home at the end of term, saying she'd "had enough of 15 years of physical
and emotional abuse". Her father claimed she had been kidnapped and brainwashed
by members of a socialist organisation.
But now, speaking about it for the first time, Sufiah says: "I couldn't bear
the thought of going home so I ran away. I'd saved up £200 and found a hostel
in London for £14 per night. After a week I moved to a hostel in Bournemouth. I
knew I could survive on my own."
When she was found in an internet cafe, Sufiah refused to go home and was
placed in foster care by Bournemouth social services. She says: "I stayed with
two families who were very good to me. My mum and dad would call me and ask me
to go home--but I didn't want to."
Rich
Her 50-year-old father is now in jail for 18 months after being convicted of
sexually assaulting two 15-year-old girls he taught at his home in Coventry.
When Sufiah reached 18 she returned to Oxford to continue her studies--and fell
in love with fellow student Jonathan Marshall. They married a year later but it
barely lasted a year.
"At the time I thought we would be together forever, but we married too young
and grew apart," she says.
After the split she moved back to London where she taught maths in the evenings
to make ends meet. Then six months ago she moved to Manchester--and stumbled
across her new career. "I'm still only young and I can't decide what I want to
do," she says. "My escort work provides me with a fabulous life.
"I still enjoy learning and I find it puts me in the right frame of mind for an
intelligent conversation with my clients." But she admits not all her sexual
encounters work out. "At the end of the day you don't have to sleep with a
client if you don't want to. I've done that twice now. Both men were young and
very nervous. I just left.
"The dullest client I've ever had was a rich man who talked about cars all
night. It was really, really boring."
Sufiah is well aware she could easily find a job in the City where she could
match her £60,000 a year sex earnings.
But she said: "I don't want to take anything away from people who do jobs like
that but it's not for me. I have a nice life. I don't want for anything."
Her mother Halimahton is now divorcing jailed Farooq and is desperate for her
daughter to get in touch with her. "I was shaking when I found out what had
become of her," she says.
But talking about her bitter split with her parents, Sufiah says: "I would
describe our relationship as estranged.
"I have contact with them occasionally but I couldn't speculate on what they
will make of my new life.
"I don't have any regrets. I've never felt more confident about my body and
I've had some of the best sex of my life."
Warm Regards,
Khadie Abdul
