[image: forgive.jpg Forgive image by Cookie0115] *Why is it so difficult for us to forgive others? Why do we find it so hard to let go?* * * *Sometimes, even years after a certain incident; sometimes, even after they have apologized; sometimes, when they have hurt you unknowingly and have no idea that you are struggling to forgive them.* * * *Why? * * * *Because we are usually under the misconception t hat we will be doing them a favor by forgiving them.*
*That in fact, is not the case. * *When we forgive someone, we actually do ourselves huge favor because through forgiveness.* * * *We release all the negative thoughts, emotions and energies that we are so desperately holding onto in our anger.* * * *Replaying the moment again and again in our mind, torturing ourselves in so many ways.* * * *It hurts us more than them, when we don't forgive.* * * *We find it hard to forgive because we think we are n the more powerful position when we hold back forgiveness. * * * *Actually we are the weak ones, if that's the kind of power we rely on to give us strength.* * * *We are also not able to forgive because we take everything so personally.* * * *Not everything another person does is done with the concious intention of hurting you.* * * *Sometimes they are just trying to protect t hemselves and that's the best they know how to protect themselves.* * * *Haven't you heard of the saying 'The Best Defence is Offense'? * * * *We need to give allowance to others for their insecurities and their imperfections without aking things personally.* * * *So even if you do it for the most selfish of easons, go ahead and forgive.* * * *First, forgive yourself for holding onto the grudge for as long as you did.* * * *Then, forgive the other person.* * * *Finally, be proud of yourself.* -- *Jangan menampal dunia dengan mengoyakkan akhirat. Janganlah menjadi begitu masin.. sehingga orang meludahmu.. Dan janganlah pula berlaku terlampau manis, sehingga mereka menelan dirimu begitu saja... Have a unique character like salt its presence is not felt but its absence makes things tasteless. * <http://sig.graphicsfactory.com/>
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