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akummm..
inilah hikmahnya tutup aurat....org lelaki takkan kacau diorang tuh.....
ini lah kelebihannya.....tapi jgn pulak kita jadikan ini sbg alasan
untuk tidak mendakwahkan org lelaki yg lemah imannya tuh.....iman harus
dibina.......lelaki kuat iman...pompuan tutup aurat...barulah terjamin
keselamatan umat.....insyaAllah.....org lelaki kene pastikan wanita2 mereka
tutup aurat....aurat pun nak suruh k'jaan uruskan kot.....
kalau benda camne ni pun takleh handle...dayus namanya....kalau
umat islam tutup aurat ....insyaAllah org kafir akan tutup aurat juga....
dan inilah yg berlaku di sekolah saya....(majoritinya org Cina....)....
ramai gadis Cina yg memakai baju kurung ke sekolah......kan bagus....
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From: Pabiyen Sitok <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: Cameroon <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>; <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
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Subject: Re: H-Net* Special Feature: Women and 'provocative dressing'
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> Rasa-rasanya saya belum sentuh issu ni lagi. Rasa-rasa macam nak
> mencuit sikit. (abih tu, nak kata kita nak mencelah sikit dah ada
> orang dok pakai nama tu)
>
> sebagai seorang wanita yang pernah melalui zaman gadis, zaman remaja,
> walaupun tak cantik tetap menjadi perhatian lelaki. Awal tahun 80-an
> tak ramai sangat yang bertudung, antaranya ialah saya sendiri. pergi
> sekolah dengan baju apa tu orang panngil mencelah? pennyform? ntah le
> camne nak mengejanya. tapi skirt le. kat sekolah OK je, bila balik
> sekolah punyalah menyampah bila orang bersiul atau mengusik. Kena
> pulak member yang berjalan dengan saya tu suka melayan. Tapi jalan
> sorang lagi bahaya, takut sebab mesti ada orang ikut.
>
> Seorang perempuan sebenarnya berbangga bila diberi perhatian, tapi
> kalau diusik ditempat sunyi memang menakutkan, macam-macam perkara
> ngeri kita imagine masa tu.
>
> Bila baca risalah israk mikraj yang sibuk diedarkan masa tu, mula
> terasa nak pakai tudung. Bila pakai tudung fuh punya aman sebab satu
> orangpun tak berani nak kacau. Bahagianya. Tapi bila tudung dah jadi
> trend, pemakai tudung tidak lagi dihormati seperti mula-mula saya pakai
> tudung. Gangguan datang balik. Sebab ramai yang pakai tudung tapi
> tersengih-sengih, tergelak-gelak; Pakai seluar, pakai t-shirt.
>
> Saya mula ubah sikit lagi kepada tudung labuh. Alhamdulillah tiada
> lagi gangguan. Tapi seorang dorm-mate yang nakal tegur saya still
> nampak seksi pakai tudung labuh, sebelum apa-apa terjadi baik saya
> pakai jubah. Legaaaa.......
>
> Alhamdulillah setakat ni tiada perkara yang tak diingini berlaku, yang
> lucu banyak le. Ada sekali tu saya gertak seorang budak yang disyaki
> mencuri kat blok asrama saya. dengan gaya yang sungguh syahdu saya
> kata saya kalau nak solat hajat boleh, tapi saya takut apa-apa jadi
> pada orang tu saya tak pandai nak reverse balik. dan dan tu budak tu
> mengaku dia mencuri. waaaaa... power jugak ek pakai jubah ni, orang
> ingat kita betul-betul alim, padahal ianya tak lebih dari sekeping
> pakaian yang dipakai hanya dengan niat mendapat keredhaan Allah.
>
> ada sekali tu masa naik bas ke bangsar, ssaya dok perati budak yang
> duduk depan saya. admire warna kulit dada dia sama dengan warna kulit
> kat lutut dia, sama dengan warna kulit pipi dia; putih, halus, gebu.
> tetiba dia tarik skirt dia ke bawah sikit, baju dia ke atas sikit.
> esoknya tiap-tiap hari pakai baju kurung. Mudah-mudahan dia sekarang
> dah pakai tudung.
>
> OK, apa benda yang saya nak cerita sebenarnya? Yang saya nak beritahu
> ialah, pakaian seorang perempuan memang mempengaruhi gangguan
> keatasnya. Pakai seksa, orang kacau, tutup sikit, orang akan segan
> dengan kita. Tok sah lah dok kata, dak aih, orang PAS je yang terliur
> tengok pompuan, orang UMNO tadak. PENIPU! Cubalah tanya
> pelanggan-pelanggan lorong Haji Taib tu, hang ni penyokong PAS
> kaaaa???? Tak dak sorang pun penyokong PAS. Kalau dia sokong PAS dia
> rugi sebab lepas ni dia tak leh gi Lorong Haji Taib lagi. Kalau bukan
> penyokong PAS, maka tentu-tentu dia tu penyokong BN alias UMNO.
>
>
> --- Cameroon <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> > www.harakahdaily.com
> >
> > SPECIAL FEATURE: Women and 'provocative dressing'
> >
> > Dazzling or Detrimental? (Women and 'provocative dressing')
> >
> > by Julie Riggert,
> > Iowa State University, USA.
> >
> >
> > They are seen every day; magazine covers explode with their pictures;
> > television and movie screens constantly display them prancing around.
> > Because provocatively dressed women are seen so frequently, many
> > people
> > might believe that their impact on others, especially males, is
> > diminishing.
> >
> >
> > Surprisingly, this is not the case. Many researchers have shown that
> > women
> > who dress seductively, wearing very little attire or showing ample
> > amounts
> > of skin, are creating a harmful environment for themselves. This
> > pattern of
> > dress can encourage males to vent their feelings and emotions by
> > acting out
> > in violence, often in the form of rape.
> >
> > "Male sex is hunting and scanning: boys hang yelping from honking
> > cars,
> > acting like jerks over strolling girls; men lunching on girders go
> > through
> > the primitive book of wolf whistles and animal clucks. Everywhere,
> > the
> > beautiful woman is scrutinized and harassed. She is the ultimate
> > symbol of
> > human desire" (Paglia 32).
> >
> > Why is clothing so important and have such an impact on others?
> > Clothing
> > plays a significant role in the socialization process that leads to
> > the
> > development of one's self. It is seen as a "second skin" or extension
> > of the
> > bodily self (Sweeney 411).
> >
> > Clothes' characteristics transmit information about age, sex,
> > personality
> > traits, socioeconomic status, values, political ideologies, etc. They
> > may
> > also indicate inter personal attitudes, such as, aggressiveness,
> > availability, gracefulness, arrogance, etc. (Satrapa 159).
> >
> > At times this form of expression may result with what some perceive
> > as
> > negative consequences. When strategically surrounded by clothing,
> > many areas
> > of the body may function like traffic lights, stopping and starting
> > points
> > that direct the eye to a further destination-thus fulfilling what
> > Freud
> > regarded as a major component of the sex drive, "the libido for
> > looking"
> > (Dyett 14).
> >
> > After establishing that clothing is an essential aspect of
> > appearance, it is
> > now necessary to investigate its importance in forming first
> > impressions.
> > Frequently, the impression that a woman may be trying to portray
> > isn't the
> > same impression that is interpreted by others as seen in one
> > experiment.
> > Introductory psychology classes were shown one of two slides: one
> > slide
> > represented a female model wearing 'conservative' clothing while the
> > other
> > slide depicted the model in sexually provocative clothing.
> >
> > Questionnaires were filled out indicating impressions of the female.
> > The
> > model in the sexy clothing was judged to be more attractive and
> > sexually
> > appealing to men; she was viewed more negatively with respect to age
> > of
> > first intercourse, sexual teasing, extent of sexual activity, using
> > sex for
> > personal gain, and faithfulness in marriage.
> >
> > The sexy model was also viewed as more likely to be raped or robbed
> > (Cahoon
> > 65). Many people doubt that a woman's attire could drive a man to
> > rape, but
> > studies prove that clothing could be a major factor in motivating a
> > male to
> > act out in this manner.
> >
> > An experiment done at Augusta College drew up the following results:
> > the
> > relationship between sexy clothing and robbery/rape supports the
> > assumption
> > that the culture views women who choose to be sexually attractive as
> > being
> > suitable objects for male aggression. Females who enhance their
> > sexual
> > appeal to males are viewed as somehow "asking for it."
> >
> > In summary, the study seems to indicate that females wearing sexually
> > oriented clothes are perceived by both men and women as being "more
> > vulnerable to victimization and more responsible for crimes committed
> > against them than are women who dress more conservatively" (Edmonds
> > 446).
> >
> > Arguments arise as to who is responsible for the rape: the
> > provocatively
> > dressed female, or the assailant. The opinions of some senior high
> > school
> > students were recorded in the following experiment.
> >
> > Each student was given the same scenario involving a woman their age
> > who was
> > raped, and then they were to decide who was responsible for the
> > behavior.
> >
> > In order to investigate the influence of the victim's attire on the
> > subjects' responses, the story was accompanied by either a photograph
> > of the
> > woman dressed provocatively, a photograph of the woman dressed
> > conservatively, or no photograph at all.
> >
> > Results found that the victim wearing provocative dress resulted in a
> > greater likelihood that the subjects would attribute responsibility
> > for the
> > assailant's behavior to the victim for the date rape. Provocative
> > clothing
> > was also associated with a greater tendency for subjects to agree
> > that the
> > behavior of the assailant was justified.
> >
> > Further, the results indicate that the subjects were less likely to
> > make
> > judgments of rape when the victim was dressed provocatively (Cassidy
> > 319-323). This experiment showed that the impression the victim
> > presented is
> > interpreted as evidence for her willingness to have sex.
> >
> > Everyone has his or her own opinion of who is responsible for the
> > rape in a
> > case similar to the one previously described, but what does the law
> > say
> > about a woman's responsibility for the actions of others as a result
> > of her
> > style of dress?
> >
> > In 1986, the U.S. Supreme Court endorsed guidelines on sexual
> > harassment,
> > and in this decision it was said that evidence of a "woman's
> > allegedly
> > provocative conduct or clothing might be relevant evidence in some
> > cases in
> > determining whether she found particular advances unwelcome" (160
> > Johnson).
> >
> > This decision supported the notion that victims of sexual harassment,
> > as a
> > result of their choice of clothing, should be held at least partially
> > responsible for their own harassment.
> >
> > As I reflect on the data that was collected from numerous
> > experiments,
> > including my own, I have drawn several conclusions.
> >
> > First, it is important to state that no woman is ever safe from
> > harassment
> > and rape.
> >
> > "By rating the provocative model as likely to provoke sexual
> > harassment,
> > subjects are able to dissociate themselves from a similar occurrence
> > by
> > stressing that the female provoked the incident and reasoning that if
> > they
> > avoid 'provoking' behaviors, such as dressing in provocative
> > clothing, they
> > can prevent sexual harassment" (Johnson 170).
> >
> > Although no woman is ever completely safe from this violence, there
> > are
> > certain precautions that can be taken to minimize the amount of
> > harassment
> > that will take place.
> >
> > As the studies showed, women who dress provocatively have a higher
> > rate for
> > getting raped and robbed for various reasons. As stated earlier,
> > males are
> > attracted to certain features on a female, and when a woman accents
> > these
> > features with her style of dress, it entices males to stop and take a
> > closer
> > look.
> >
> > I am impartial as to whether it is "ethical" or not to dress
> > seductively,
> > but I do believe every person has a right to do with his or her body
> > as he
> > or she pleases. I feel it is never right to physically or emotionally
> > harm
> > anyone knowingly. Females need to realize, though, that they are
> > putting
> > themselves at a higher risk for violence when they dress in a
> > sexually
> > oriented manner.
> >
> > Is the price a woman pays to look dazzling worth the detrimental
> > effects it
> > could have on her life? The decision is in her hands.
> >
> > References
> >
> > Cahoon, D. D. "Estimates of Oppostie-Sex First Impressions Related to
> > Female' Clothing Style." Perceptual and Motor Skills 65 (1987): 406.
> >
> > Cassidy, Linda, and Rose Marie Hurrell. "The Influence of Victim's
> > Attire on
> > Adolescents' Judgments of Date Rape." Adolescence 30 (1995): 319-323.
> >
> >
> > Dyett, Linda. "Desperately Seeking Skin." Psychology Today 29 (1996):
> > 14.
> >
> > Edmonds, Ed M. "Attitudes Concerning Crimes Related to Clothing Worn
> > by
> > Female Victims." Bulletin of the Psychonomic Society 24 (1986):
> > 444-446.
> >
> > Johnson, Kim K., and Jane E. Workman. "Clothing and Attributions
> > Concerning
> > Sexual Harassment." Home Economics Research Journal 21 (1992):
> > 160-172.
> >
> > Paglia, Camille. Sexual Personae. New York: Vail Ballou Press, 1990.
> >
> > Satrapa, Andrea, et al. "Influence of Style of Dress on Formation of
> > First
> > Impressions." Perceptual and Motor Skills 74 (1992): 159-162.
> >
> > Sweeney, Maureen M., and Paul Zionts. "The "Second-Skin": Perceptions
> > of
> > Disturbed and Nondisturbed Early Adolescents on Clothing,
> > Self-Concept, and
> > Body Image." Adolescence 24 (1989): 411-420.
> >
> > Source: http://www.public.iastate.edu/~jriggert/english105.html
> >
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