You know that sounds good. Though I am reminded of one of the savings that was floating around Defense Lawyers in a Texas court house, "Some times it easier to defend a murder case than a robbery, you can make a good argument someone just needed killing, it's much harder to make an argument that someone just needed robbing."
-----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Loren Mayhew Sent: Saturday, February 16, 2008 7:27 AM To: Hornlist (Memphis) Subject: [Hornlist] UnRaveled Redux I am probably not going to be liked for this post, but I think it needs saying nevertheless. A word to the wise. The post about the dustup with the conductor got me to thinking about how we handle our relationships. Some people need a great deal of help in keeping relations peaceful and productive; most of us need a little help at least occasionally. Arrogance is counterproductive, wasteful, unintelligent (stupid) and destructive When we encounter it, our response should focus on healing or at least ameliorating arrogance, not exacerbating it. When we respond with love, intelligence, kindness and patience, the situation can at least be kept to the tolerable level of decency. When we respond in like kind with arrogance of our own, the battle lines are drawn and the consequences are not pleasant for all within the sphere of this influence - indeed such war can lead to unintended and possibly illegal actions and even violence as the war takes on a life of its own. When we encounter such negativity, we (as horn players are a higher class of exceptionally talented, honest and ethical people) should view it as an opportunity to show that love and intelligence are far more effective in accomplishing good than negativity is in accomplishing bad. Phil Farkas set the example we hornists can follow. Someone else certainly can relate this story better than I, but here is the gist of it. After he left Chicago, he was on tour with the St. Louis Symphony (I believe) as a floater. During one of the performances, the 1st horn was supposed to play a solo at a difficult-to-count entrance that really needed a cue from the conductor which he didn't get. He missed his entrance and he was furious at the conductor. Ready to tear him apart afterwards. Mr. Farkas grabbed him and told him something along the lines of, "Let it go. Tomorrow you will get a cue you can't miss." The next night, he get a nice big cue with a big smile on the conductor's face. Love is the answer. Loren Mayhew <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> [EMAIL PROTECTED] 001 (520) 289-0700 _______________________________________________ post: [email protected] unsubscribe or set options at http://music2.memphis.edu/mailman/options/horn/bgross%40airmail.net _______________________________________________ post: [email protected] unsubscribe or set options at http://music2.memphis.edu/mailman/options/horn/archive%40jab.org
