Let those of us who are aware of Indian realities not be shy
of admitting that patriarchy is the accepted norm for the attitude
to human relationships including of the Parliamentary left .There
are different standards for men and different standards for women.
There is even support for the status of marriage ,even in circumstances
which call for an end to a relationship which is exploitative and stifling
either for the woman or the man .
The approach that Society as a whole is not the unit which
must assist all weaker sections and that in any and every case
a woman has to seek the economic/social support of a man ,
is what some affiliated organizations have been preaching ,leading
to a focus on man-woman relationship alone and not on how society
has evolved or degenerated, including in human relations.This
leads to a man versus woman approach and an unusually squeamish
approach to what is an individual choice /decision .
The CPM /CPI have forgotten that one of the first decisions
taken after revolutionary events of the 20th Century was the
decision to liberalize divorce while protecting the economic security
of women.Hypocrisy in the name of political respectability can
never be supported. Political organizations are not supposed to
cater to reaction /obscurantist /orthodox views .The agenda is
emancipation from feudal and patriarchal man -woman relationships,
to elevate the human condition and the relationships to higher
and better cultural norms without double and dual standards.
It may be that there are other reasons which we are not aware
of and that the case may have been sensationalized .
Kindly circulate to all participating in the discussion .
Niloufer Bhagwat
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From: Kavita Krishnan
Cc: S Faizi ; Hro ; ANN ; Thealig ; Moderates ; [email protected]
Sent: Monday, June 06, 2011 11:59 AM
Subject: [ANN:4268] Re: Kerala incident
"A bit high-handed'??! A strange understatement by an AIDWA/CPIM leader. Is
it not outrightly, outrageously patriarchal to demand that she make her
relationship public, insinuating that the relationship would not be socially
acceptable otherwise?! To claim the right to pass diktats on how personal
relationships are conducted reeks of the khap mentality, and reflects the same
ideological basis of a false notion of 'social norms' being above individual
freedom and rights. Moreover Minimole herself has said that it was the party
which asked her to keep her relationship under wraps till her panchayat term
was over - a diktat which she defied. So it doesn't look like the CPIM asked
her to 'make her relation public' - rather it chastised and harassed her for
doing so.
On 6 June 2011 11:39, <[email protected]> wrote:
1. Khap panchayats condemn young couples and their family members etc to
death. In kerala, ms minimole was, on the contrary, asked by the local Party to
make her relationship public. While this is also a bit high-handed it is
certainly not akin to khap panchayat behaviour. The aidwa unit of kollam has
already met her and intervened. State leaders are going tomorrow. There is no
question of her being asked to resign her post. And her caste has nothing to do
with it since her husband is of the same caste.
2. Love jehad. Yes there were inter religious marriages in Kerala which
caused some adverse comments but not from the cpim but sections of the admin
but this was not encourage nor were the couples penalised. It was the High
Court in Karnataka that made atrocious comments and issued very objectionable
orders. In fact sr IPS kerala and karnataka officers proved him wrong.
3. Rizwanur - Brinda and Shyamali Gupta of Aidwa visited his mother 2 days
after his death. No cpim person has been accused of being involved. In fact TMC
mla Javed khan now re-elected was, acc to the Judge, named in Rizwanur's note.
Judge asked CBI why J khans name was not mentioned in the Chargesheet.
Subhashini Ali
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From: "S Faizi " <[email protected]>
Date: 6 Jun 2011 05:52:45 -0000
To: <[email protected]>; <[email protected]>; <[email protected]>
Subject: CPM fired her for marrying her driver (Indian Express)
Dear Comrades,
May I take the liberty of bringing the following issue to your attention.
In Kerala the invisible Khap panchayats work in a more efficient and modern
manner than the ones in the Hindi heartland. I guess you recall the love jehad
harangue (against inter-religuous marriages) in Kerala,initiated by the sangh
parivar, and mainstreamed by the mainstream media and the parting shot was made
by none other than Mr Achuthanandan (also CPIM's Chinta Books has published a
book exposing this harangue). Love has become a crime here, for one reason or
the other.
Regards
S.Faizi
CPM fired her for marrying her driver
Shaju Philip Posted online: Sun Jun 05 2011, 00:44 hrs
Thiruvananthapuram : In God’s Own Country, the “liberal and progressive”
Communist Party of India-Marxist is seeing red over its comrade’s love
marriage. The CPI (M), with a history of solemnizing marriages of several
comrades in Kerala, could not digest it when it came to Dalit woman panchayat
president B Minimole’s love marriage to her official driver C Jayan and has
asked her to step down from the post for going against “the laid down social
system”.
But a defiant Minimole, the president of the CPI (M)-ruled Mylom village
panchayat in Kollam district, has refused to budge. “The families are not
against our relationship. Then why does the party want to spoil our life,” asks
Minimole.
On May 22, several months after the love story began between 25-year-old
Minimole and 28-year-old Jayan — both belong to Scheduled Tribe category — the
two tied the knot at a local temple in Kollam with the concurrence of their
families.
But her comrades were not impressed and the party area committee—the forum
below the district committee—met to discuss the marriage of its panchayat
president with her driver. Last Monday, the couple and their in-laws were
summoned to the local committee office and the party verbally directed Minimole
to resign from her post.
With Minimole refusing to accept the party diktat, she now faces the threat
of being removed by her own comrades in the local body. In the 20-member Mylom
panchayat, CPI (M) has 12 members.
“None of the panchayat members supported when the party issued the diktat
against me. The party wanted me to hush up the relationship until the term of
the panchayat is over,” she said.
But the comrades have taken a high moral ground and accuse Minimole of
going against the social practice.
“A public worker has the responsibility to be a model for others in life.
The party is not against love or love marriage. She had not even informed the
local people about the marriage. Will society accept if they start living
together,” CPI (M) Kollam district secretary and party state committee member K
C Rajagopal said.
“You can say they are adults and love their right, but why did they not get
married with society’s approval,” he asked.
Minimole said it was a section of society prodded by the party that had
been running a dirty campaign against her for being in love with her driver.
“The party and a section of society spread stories whenever I boarded the
jeep for day time visits along with other panchayat members. In fact, this only
strengthened our bonds,” she said.
Minimole and Jayan’s love story is today threatening their jobs.
“He is not on government payroll, but had been working on daily wages for
past four years. The party can now invoke the marriage as a reason to deny him
the job,’’ said Minimole, who is qualified to teach in lower primary school
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