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Chances are that unless you are a total recluse then you're not always shy. So how can you overcome your shyness in those situations where you suddenly become shy? Here are 5 tips that will help you to reduce your shyness. 1. Don't focus on your shyness The more you think about something, the more it is likely to happen. So if you always think that you are going to feel shy when you meet new people, chances are that is what will happen. Instead, distract your mind and stop focusing on that "I'm always shy when..." thought that keeps cropping up. 2. Get rid of that nagging voice Unless you've got a real life evil twin, chances are that the nagging voice telling you that you are shy is inside your head. Which means that it is a figment of your imagination. And it's probably saying all sorts of nasty things about you and how shy you are. Be strong. Tell that voice exactly where to go! If it doesn't listen (and these self critical voices often don't) then change it. Give the voice a high pitched squeak instead of a deep voice. Slow the voice's speed or speed it up so that it's like an old record played at the wrong speed. Anything to give that voice less authority! 3. Smile more often Most shy people tense up and get miserable in situations where they feel shy. It's normal and part of the "I'm shy" program that your mind is running. Change your mind's software. Start by smiling - or if that's not possible at first, start by at least not gritting your teeth. Loosen up. You don't need alcohol to do this, although that's one of the reasons night clubs work for young people wanting to date. Chill a bit and allow yourself to smile - other people will notice this and they may even approach you. 4. Learn to relax OK, you feel shy. What's the worst that can happen if you make a mistake? Maybe you'll feel embarrassed for a while but most people are so busy concentrating on what they're doing and how they think other people perceive them, chances are no-one but you will notice if you make what you consider to be a "mistake". The other benefit of relaxing is that, once again, other people will notice. If you're rigid, stiff as a board, really stand-offish when you meet other people, they'll reflect that attitude. If you're "cool" and casual, they'll reflect that instead. So your relaxation will be contagious and will affect the way other people interact with you. Try it, you'll be pleasantly surprised. 5. Practice Don't give up the first time you're not perfect! If you'd done that in the rest of your life, you'd still be crawling around on all fours and wouldn't be able to drive or ride a bike. Will you make mistakes? Almost certainly. Actors make mistakes all the time (check the out-takes shows for proof) but because we only see the edited highlights, we set ourselves stupidly high levels to reach. Treat any "failure" as a learning experience and give it another go. Chances are you'll be less shy next time. Get more shyness help and find out how you can easily start to overcome your shyness at http://hypnosisabc.com/2008/08/23/shyness-help-tips-on-overcoming-your-shyness ------------------ ARTICLE END ------------------ [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
