>>>>Because so many unresolvable behavior problems, I would say almost all >of them, are from bad experiences. What if they could be erased?? it >is fascinating to think of. >Janice<<<
There actually is a way, that we've been using, very effectively, for about eight years; the method works because of certain truths that science, i.e. quantum physics, is just now confirming, but that the Bible and many other religious traditions has always claimed-that we are more than physical beings. From conception we have a spiritual aspect that is always the same, and remembers and knows everthing, and what you imagine is as real to this spiritual part of you as what we call "reality." In fact, we make our own reality by what we believe; the rich get richer, the porr tend to get poorer, losers tend to keep losing, winners keep winnning. It's mostly what we believe about ourselves, not our circumstances, that dictates our futures. The method is simple, but difficult to do, so it helps to describe it aloud to a sympathetic person (I used my daughter and/or husband) . You simply replace the bad memory with what "should" have happened; i.e., if a parent looked the other way while a relative mistreated you, you can isolate each incident and imagine what should have happened-using the present tense. You imagine the scenario where your parents lovingly protect and support you, and the relative treats you correctly. However, usually the apparent "problem" -i.e., an abusive spouse, for instance, has roots in early experiences of which we have no conscience memory. You can erase indiividual bad memories from an abusive marriage, which is time-consuming, but to experience a permanent change in self-esteem or future mate choices, one addresses the root issues. For instance; if your conception was accidental, or one, or both, of your parents rejected you in some way, you can then spend a few minutes imagining each of your parents being raised in happy, supportive homes themselves, then imagine them treating "the way it should have been." You imagine your parents deliberately conceiving you, you being born quietly at home with your father and family present, your mother lovingly nursing you all you want, both parents snuggling you or carrying you around strapped to their backs, your parents and family members constantly spending time with you, encouraging you, listening to you, meeting your needs, telling you how proud they are of you, playing with you, your parents showing you ( and each other) respect and honor, treating you (and each other) as equals no matter what your gender, etc., or anything else you may have missed in "real life." You can even "reconstruct" a bad marriage, imagining a romantic courtship, a husband who is faithful, loves and provides for you, your children growing up safe and happy, etc., and afterward you'll find that you feel kind thoughts toward even the worst "ex." Strangely, you know what really happened, but suddenly no longer feel the anger or emotional pain formerly attached with those memories, and began reacting to those people as though they actually did do the right thing. But the method can be used for individual incidences as well; i.e. if a relative makes a hateful remark at a family reunion, you can immediately imagine that same person making a kind, loving remark, and the anger will immediately dissipate. Since my horses had been horribly abused before George and I bought them, my "ex" who had already experienced "memory healing" after I told him about it eight years ago (he is now our chiropractor and one of our best friends) suggested I try it with the horses, since "there's no difference in the spirit." So, I "talked" to my spookiest horse, Banjo, with my imagination, pretending I was the "Pet Physic," and asked him what was wrong. I imagined that he expressed surprise that I was interested in his opinion, then explained to me what was wrong and what he wanted, and I did, and afterwards his whole personality changed. I didn't actually do any memory healing scenarios with him, but I suppose that would work as well. It's all in your imagination anyway, doesn't cost anything, and takes little time, so what's to lose? It is VERY hard to get yourself to do it, however, because most people subconsciously don't want to face their pain or forgive their tormentors. It's so easy to find excuses, think of something else, anything to divert attention and avoid imagining the corrective scenarios. That's why it helps to describe the imagination scenarios aloud at first, at least until you get used to it. I used to have to describe stuff to my mom and she just followed along, but now she can do it by herself. Red Flags: You know you need to correct a memory if you find that you are becoming furiously angry under certain circumstances. I.e., when your spouse throws dirty clothes on the floor, you might hear yourself muttering something about men thinking women are their slaves, that they are always selfish and mean, that your spouse is "just like my dad!" etec. That is a BIG hint that you may need to take 15 minutes a day for a wile to build happy childhood imagination memories of a relationship with your dad, clear back to conception, if your dad didn't want a girl to begin with, and treated you as though you didn't matter. Rachel from E KY, who had ALOT of baggage to work out so I now have a wonderful husband, loving parents, wonderful "ex" and loving grown children.
