>>>> Then I got to thinking some more - I wonder if part of the reason the
Brits don't do any better now than we did years ago is actually to do with
our attitude to our horses? Maybe we just don't push them that extra bit,
don't train them that bit hard enough etc. (and I'm glad we don't).  ....
Saying that, one or two of the team members are really, really competitive,
and they get a lot of help from some of the top European riders. How long
will it be before they find out exactly what they need to do to win? : (


Mic, I think you're seeing it right, Mic...unfortunately.


Many years ago when my daughter was in middle school, it came to our
attention that the school's discipline had just gone awry.   The teachers
apparently had tried to change things for a while, but after a while, when
they got no response from the administration, they quit trying and the
horrible just seemed normal to them.  We found out about what was going on
when our daughter, 12, came to us and admitted she'd been assaulted - not
literally raped, but physically assaulted in a way that no adult woman would
stand for...in the school.  She was just a child.  And, not just once, but
several times, by several boys...in the hallways, in the cafeteria...you
name it.  We immediately went into the principals office and when he said
something to the effect that "boys will be boys" I almost had to pull my
husband off of him.  We'd already called the sheriff's department, and the
juvenile officer came in about that time.  Thank God.  He interviewed
probably two dozen girls, got similar stories from them, involving probably
over a dozen boys.  It was simply chaos.  Once the sheriff got involved from
the outside, there was no question of what was happening, or how rampant it
was.  With no coercion, the deputy got confessions from about 6-8 boys, and
parents of about a dozen girls were supportive of their daughter's pressing
charges - some girls were too embarrassed to talk about it, some didn't want
to tell their parents, and some parents didn't want to press charges.  It
was open and shut.  Our daughter decided to press charges, so we supported
her decision...and eventually the principal and one teacher were fired.
Every boy who went to court was found guilty.  EVERY SINGLE ONE.  There was
no question that it was happening....once an outside agency got involved.
But inside it had become normal.  I went to that same school when I was her
age, but with a different principal.  I NEVER had such adult worries when I
was so young.


The parents of the girls were stunned.  How on earth could this be happening
in a civilized society?  The juvenile officer explained it to us this way.
Essentially, most people are sheep when it comes down to it.  He said that
in their police training, they are told its critical to get any hostages out
of a hostage situation in a very short period - I think he said within 24
hours generally.  Otherwise, most people, in an attempt to survive, will
start to see the absurd or even horrendous as "normal." Hostages will
quickly identify with their captors even. That's exactly what was going on
in that school...and apparently in other schools across the country.  I'm
proud to say that several of us got active and got some new laws passed to
protect our children.  Our kids, and even the teachers were virtually
hostages.


So, Mic, if you or anyone else wonder why I so strongly scoff at the idea of
changing things from within...that's why.  Once you are "inside", you are in
danger of becoming a "hostage", be that literally or figuratively.  Not a
single teacher was doing anything to help those poor kids.  At least the
teacher that my daughter reported her first incident to, and who chose to do
nothing, got fired.  My daughter will live with that for the rest of her
life, but the ones I feel sorry for are the kids who were too scared to tell
their parents, and who didn't have emotional support at home...


Those of us on the outside don't see what's happening in the Icelandic show
world as "normal" - and I pray to God that I never do...


By the way, I was never, EVER as mean as I am now before I went through that
with my kid.  I learned quickly that I can be mean when it involves child
welfare, and I feel the same about animals.


Karen Thomas, NC




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