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Although the television set had burnt out, the lights on Dircks's Christmas tree were still twinkling away. It's a bizarre story, but it shouldn't surprise us. Every year thousands of people are found accidentally days or weeks after their solitary deaths in the affluent cities and suburbs of the Western world. If a person can die in such isolation that his neighbours never notice, how lonely was he when alive? Forget about the Information Age: we live in the age of loneliness. In a world where marriage rates are dwindling, children are cautiously planned for (or avoided by contraception and abortion), middle age is synonymous with divorce, and old age means a nursing home, people are bound to be very lonely. How many of our neighbors or colleagues do we really know as friends? How often do we turn on the television because we lack companionship? Yet in spite of their aloneness, many people hunger for community--though instead of the real thing, they often settle for the silly spectacles of commercialized pop culture. Marketers have long appealed to the powerful and unfulfilled need to "belong," and play on it constantly in order to sell fake versions of togetherness. What else feeds the craze for raves, where hundreds of strangers dance together for hours? More disturbing than the health risks of Ecstasy is the isolation that drives so many youth to drug themselves weekend after weekend and flee their parents' homes in search of a place where everybody is their friend, if only for the duration of a party. Surely there must be more to our cravings than can be answered by the simple presence of others around us--who hasn't felt lonely in the middle of a crowd? Kierkegaard, by way of example, writes in his Journal that though he was often the life and soul of a party, he was desperate underneath: "Wit poured from my lips, everyone laughed and admired me. But I went away...and wanted to shoot myself." Such desperation is a common result of alienation from our true selves. If it seems an exaggeration, recall your own adolescence. How often were you insecure or lonely, unable to measure up to all those people who seemed to have everything - people who were smart, fit, and popular? And even if you were well-liked, what about your hypocrisy, your deceit, your guilt? Who hasn't known the weight of these things? Multiply self-contempt a million times, and you have the widespread alienation that marks society today. What else is it that stops strangers from acknowledging each other in the street, that breeds gossip, that keeps co-workers aloof? What else is it that destroys the deepest friendships, that divides the most closely knit families and makes the happiest marriages grow cold? We may justify the walls we throw up as safeguards against being used or mistreated. But do they really protect us? If anything, they destroy us by keeping us separated from others. They result in the attitude summed up by Jean Paul Sartre, who said that "hell is other people." Dostoyevsky half-jokingly said that though he loved humanity, he couldn't stand individuals. All too often, our actions unwittingly mirror exactly that view. How many of us really love our neighbor, rather than merely coexist? How often do we pass someone with a smile on our face, but a grudge underneath--or at least a quiet prayer that if he stops to talk, he won't go on too long? And doesn't this lack of love contribute to alienation on a broader social level? How far we have fallen from our real destiny! 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