Female-Led Prayers: A Step Forward for Women?
By: Yasmin Mogahed
Question:
On March 18,
2005 Amina Wadud led the first female-led Jumu`ah Prayer. On that day, women
took a huge step towards being more like men. But, did we come closer to
actualizing our God-given liberation?
Reply:
Thank you for your inspiring question!
Well, answering your question, I can say that: I don't think so.
What we so often
forget is that
God has honored women by giving them value in relation to God - not in relation to men.
But as
Western feminism erases God from the scene, there is no
standard left but men. As a result, the Western feminist is forced to find her value in relation
to a man. And in so doing, she has accepted a faulty
assumption. She has accepted that man
is the standard, and thus a woman can never be a full human being until she
becomes just like a man-the standard.
When a man cut his hair short, she wanted to cut her hair short. When a man joined
the army, she wanted to join the army, and so on. She wanted these things for
no other reason than because the "standard" had it.
What she didn't recognize was that God dignifies both men and women in their distinctiveness, not their sameness. And on March 18, Muslim women
made the very same mistake.
For 1,400 years,
there has been a consensus of scholars that men are to lead Prayer. As a Muslim
woman, why does this matter? The one who leads Prayer is not spiritually
superior in any way. Something is not better just because a man does it. And
leading Prayer is not better just because it is leading. Had it been the role
of women or had it been more divine, why wouldn't the Prophet have asked Lady
`A'ishah or Lady Khadijah, or Lady Fatimah-the greatest women of all time-to
lead? These women were promised heaven and yet they never led Prayer.
But now, for
the first time in 1,400 years, we look at a man leading Prayer and we think,
"That's not fair." We think so, although God has given no special
privilege to the one who leads. The imam is no higher in the eyes of God than
the one who prays behind. On the other hand, only a woman can be a mother. And
the Creator has given special privilege to a mother. The Prophet taught us that
heaven lies at the feet of mothers. But no matter what a man does, he can never
be a mother. So why is that not unfair?
When asked who is most deserving of our kind treatment? The Prophet replied
"your mother" three times before saying "your father" only
once. Isn't that sexist? No matter what a man does, he will never be able to
have the status of a mother.
And yet even when God honors us with something uniquely feminine, we are too busy trying to find our worth in
reference to men, to value it or even notice it. We too have accepted men as
the standard; so anything uniquely feminine is, by definition, inferior. Being
sensitive is an insult, becoming a mother is a degradation. In the battle
between stoic rationality (considered masculine) and selfless compassion
(considered feminine), rationality reigns supreme.
As soon as we accept that everything a man has and does is better, all that
follows is just a knee jerk reaction: if men have it, we want it too. If men
pray in the front rows, we assume this is better, so we want to pray in the
front rows too. If men lead Prayer, we assume the imam is closer to God, so we
want to lead Prayer too. Somewhere along the line, we've accepted the notion
that having a position of worldly leadership is some indication of one's
position with God.
A Muslim
woman does not need to degrade herself in this way. She has God as a standard.
She has God to give her value; she doesn't need a man here.
In fact, in our crusade to follow men, we, as women, never even
stopped to examine the possibility that what we have is better for us. In some
cases, we even gave up what was higher only to be like men.
Fifty years ago, we saw men leaving the home to work in factories. We were
mothers. And yet, we saw men doing it, so we wanted to do it too. Somehow, we
considered it women's liberation to abandon the raising of another human being
in order to work on a machine. We accepted that working in a factory was
superior to raising the foundation of society-just because a man did it.
Then after working, we were expected to be superhuman-the perfect mother, the
perfect wife, the perfect homemaker, and have the perfect career. And while
there is nothing wrong, by definition, with a woman having a career, we soon
came to realize what we had sacrificed by blindly mimicking men. We watched as
our children became strangers, and soon recognized the privilege we'd given up.
And so only now-given the choice-women in the West are choosing to stay home to raise their
children. According to the United States Department of Agriculture, only 31
percent of mothers with babies, and 18 percent of mothers with two or more
children, are working fulltime. And of those working mothers, a survey
conducted by Parenting Magazine in
2000, found that 93 percent of them say they would rather be home with their
kids, but are compelled to work due to "financial obligations." These
"obligations" are imposed on women by the gender sameness of the modern West and removed from women by
the gender distinctiveness of
Islam.
It took women in the West almost a century of experimentation to realize a
privilege given to Muslim women 1,400 years ago. Given my privilege as a woman,
I only degrade myself by trying to be something I'm not, and in all honesty,
don't want to be-a man. As women, we will never
reach true liberation until we stop trying to mimic men and value the beauty in
our own God given
distinctiveness.
If given a choice between stoic justice and compassion, I choose compassion. And
if given a choice between worldly leadership and heaven at my feet, I choose
heaven.
I hope my words answer your question. In case you have any comment or you need
more about the topic, please don't hesitate to contact us again. Thank you and
please keep in touch.
Salam
Sister
Yasmin Mogahed, a member of Ask About Islam Editorial Staff. Yasmin is an
Egyptian-American journalist based in Wisconsin, USA. She is currently studying for
a Master's degree in Journalism.
This answer was kindly provided by her.
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{Invite (mankind, O Muhammad ) to the Way of your Lord (i.e. Islam) with wisdom (i.e. with the Divine Inspiration and the Qur'an) and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better. Truly, your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Path, and He is the Best Aware of those who are guided.}
(Holy Quran-16:125)
{And who is better in speech than he who [says: "My Lord is Allah (believes in His Oneness)," and then stands straight (acts upon His Order), and] invites (men) to Allah's (Islamic Monotheism), and does righteous deeds, and says: "I am one of the Muslims."} (Holy Quran-41:33)
The prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "By Allah, if Allah guides one person by you, it is better for you than the best types of camels." [al-Bukhaaree, Muslim]
The prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) also said, "Whoever calls to guidance will have a reward similar to the reward of the one who follows him, without the reward of either of them being lessened at all."
[Muslim, Ahmad, Aboo Daawood, an-Nasaa'ee, at-Tirmidhee, Ibn Maajah]
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