Asalamalaikum,
what happens, brother, if a sister was trying to arrange a match with a particular brother. A brother that she and her husband was talking to about "finding the location or whereabouts of a particular brother" that they had in mind for me. This brother that they were asking for the brother that they wanted for me contacted me via email saying that he was interested in me. I thought that this brother was the one that the sister had wanted for me and started telephone conversations. But, I now found out that he had "kinda tricked" me; should I still communicate with him and the "soon to be found brother, Inshaallah"?
I hope that I did not confuse you, and you can give me your male and brotherly perspective on this matter, Inshaallah.
Muhammad Abdul-Rahman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Muhammad Abdul-Rahman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Is one's life partner chosen by oneself or decreed by Allaah?
Question:
What does Islam say about life partner,,,is she/he fixed by Allah or Allah has left it for us to decided?
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
First of all, we should realize that there is no contradiction between our belief that Allaah has decreed everything, and our belief that He has given us free will which enables us to do things. Confirming the free will of His slaves, Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "To whomsoever among you wills to walk straight" [al-Takweer 81:28]
Our will operates within the will of Allaah, not outside of it, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "But you cannot will, unless Allaah wills " [al-Insaan 76:30] Thus it is not permitted to try to cancel one idea out with the other, or to deny either of them. Allaah has confirmed both, that man has the power to choose, and that nothing can operate outside of His Will, may He be glorified.
If we apply this to the question asked, we will see that man has freedom of will through which he can choose whichever woman he wishes to marry, and that whatever choice he makes has already been decreed by Allaah. The man's choice is the means by which he gets what he wants, but some obstacles may come between the person and what he wants, in which case he will realize that Allaah has not decreed this for him, for some reason which is known to Him. Everything that Allaah does is good, and His slaves do not have knowledge of the Unseen or of how things will end. A person may regret missing out on something when it is good that he did not have it, or he may hate something that happens to him when it is good that it happened to him, as Allaah tells us (interpretation of the meaning): " it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allaah knows but you do not know."
[al-Baqarah 2:216]
May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.
Go to http://www.islammuslims.com/islam-qa/Volume_2/Chapter_1.htm#_RWTOC-40 for Reference and more questions and answers.
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