B i s m i l l a a h i r R a h m a a n i r R a h e e m
Youth Youth
"We relate to thee their story in truth: they were youths who believed in
their Lord, and We advanced them in guidance: We gave strength to their hearts:
Behold, they stood up and said: "Our Lord is the Lord of the heavens and of the
earth: never shall we call upon any god other than Him: if we did, we should
indeed have uttered an enormity!" (Al-Kahf 18:13-14)
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Seven Habits
Of Highly Successful Muslim Youth
By Altaf Husain
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You cannot escape it. The discussion about habits is all around
you: Mom and Dad are constantly telling you to break your bad habits; your
teachers are telling you to develop good habits; your friends are pressuring
you to adopt their habits; and the television and media are influencing you to
explore new and supposedly cool habits. "You will never be successful," the
constant refrain goes, "unless you drop your bad habits and develop some good
habits." In the end, it's all up to you. You have to decide what your habits
are going to be. Have you given this matter some thought?
If you are alive and breathing, you should constantly be engaged in
an inner struggle to develop habits which draw you closer to Allaah Most High.
Success in this world is directly related to the strength of your relationship
with Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta`aala. The farther one is from Allaah and the
teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam), the less
likely one is to achieve success in this world and, for sure, even less likely
to achieve success in the hereafter. Is it not time for us to reflect upon
Islamic teachings to discern the necessary habits of highly successful Muslim
youth?
Here are at least seven habits indispensable for highly successful
Muslim youth, derived entirely from the Qur`aan and the teachings of the
Prophet Muhammad (sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam).
Be Truthful
Being truthful is not always easy, especially when we make a
mistake. We fret over whether or not to disclose exactly what happened. We
sweat, we are afraid, we feel nervous and anxious. We are often afraid that if
we tell the truth about what we have done or said, we will be in trouble with
our parents or friends. What we forget is that whether we tell the truth or
not, Allaah Most High knows exactly what took place, even those things that
were never manifest or visible to people around us. Despite how burdensome
telling the truth might seem, all of us are aware of the feeling of relief we
experience when we tell the truth, even if the consequence of telling the truth
is punishment. Casting the telling of truth and the fate of the truthful in
terms of profit and loss, Allaah Most High tells us in the Qur`aan:
"This is a day on which the truthful will profit from their truth:
theirs are gardens, with rivers flowing beneath - their eternal Home: Allaah
well-pleased with them, and they with Allaah. That is the great salvation, (the
fulfillment of all desires)." (Al-Maa'idah 5:119)
So much is to be gained from being truthful as opposed to escaping
punishment or blame because of not being truthful. Not being truthful, in fact,
leads us down a slippery slope, guaranteeing that with one lie, more lies must
be told. Being truthful is not an option for Muslims, but rather an obligation,
because our goal in being truthful is Paradise. The beloved of Allaah, Prophet
Muhammad (sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam), said, as narrated by `Abdullah
radhiallahu`anhu:
"Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to
Paradise. And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful
person. Falsehood leads to al-fujur [wickedness, evil-doing], and al-fujur
leads to the (Hell) Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is witten
before Allaah, a liar." (Saheeh Bukhaari, Book #73, Hadieeh #116)
Ultimate success is therefore achieved by living one's entire life
- the youthful years, the adult years, and the elderly years - being truthful.
Be Trustworthy
Who do you rely on? Of course, Allaah. He is indeed the Most
Trustworthy. But among humans, who do you rely on? Who can you trust to come
through for you all the time? Do people rely on you? Are you considered
trustworthy? Moving ahead in life, achieving ultimate success, requires that
people consider you trustworthy and reliable. Being trustworthy should not be
an arbitrary activity but rather a habit so that you can be relied upon in all
instances, big or small, convenient or inconvenient, easy or difficult.
In colloquial terms, we often hear "I've got your back," implying,
in the most literal sense, that people cannot see what is behind them so they
need to rely on their friends to cover that angle, just in case a threat occurs
from the back. Just imagine what it would be like if a friend were climbing a
tree and was heading out onto a very thin branch to get a kite that got stuck
there. She asks you if you "have her back." In this instance, she is relying on
you entirely to hold on to her in case the branch breaks. There is no room for
joking around or for being distracted: your friend is trusting you with her
life.
When we say Allaah is the Most Trustworthy, we are coming to terms
with the fact that Allaah Most High will never let us down, will never leave
our side. He, Most High, says about someone who willingly accepts Islam,
"Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear
from error: whoever rejects evil and believes in Allaah hath grasped the most
trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allaah Heareth and Knoweth all
things." (Al-Baqarah 2:256)
Indeed, the prophets of Allaah were all trustworthy people and
Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta`aala attested to the trustworthiness of those who were
doubted by their communities. Prophet Hud `alayhissalaam, appealing to his
community, declared to them:
"I but fulfill towards you the duties of my Lord's mission: I am to
you a sincere and trustworthy adviser." (Al-A`raaf 7:68)
Practice daily developing the habit of being trustworthy. Accept
responsibility and then fulfill it. When others trust you, do not betray their
trust.
You can read in the beautiful biography of our Prophet Muhammad
(sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam) how people used to entrust him with their
valuables, knowing that upon their return they would find their valuables safe
and unharmed. His personal and business practices were commendable to the
degree that he was known for it in his community, even before he became aware
that he was the Prophet of Allaah, literally one who is most truthful and
trustworthy.
Have Self-Restraint and Be God-Conscious
Perhaps the most difficult challenge while navigating adolescence
is to restrain oneself from falling victim to one's desires - especially one's
lower desires.
Our success in life depends to a great extent on how well we are
able to restrain ourselves and to be moderate in what is permissible, as well
as how capable we are of distancing ourselves from what is impermissible.
Why is self-restraint so critical? Satan's goal is to make you a
slave of your desires to the extent that you eat until you are actually
uncomfortable; that you consume without restraint beverages made of caffeine,
sugar, and artificial flavors; that you find yourself longing for sleep more
than prayer; and that you yearn to satisfy your sexual desires. Developing
self-restraint as a habit entails making self-restraint your second nature -
something which is done almost without thought, without too much effort. We are
reminded by Allaah Most High:
"And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise
patience and self-restraint, - none but persons of the greatest good fortune."
(Fussilat 41:5)
In seeking to be highly successful Muslim youth, that is, youth
deserving of the greatest fortune, it is imperative that you develop
self-restraint.
An interesting parallel is that, throughout his Qur`aan
translation, the late Abdullah Yusuf Ali translates taqwaa as self-restraint.
While taqwaa is most commonly translated as "God-consciousness," one realizes
without much effort that the height of self-restraint is full and complete
understanding that one is indeed conscious of one's duty to one's Lord. How
awesome will it be if you can look back at your life and say to yourself, all
praise is due to Allaah that I did not succumb to my lower desires and instead
exercised self-restraint consistently!
Be Thorough
Look around your room. How many unfinished projects do you have?
When you work on homework, are you likely to rush through the assignment just
so you can be done with it or are you more likely to take your time, to check
your work, and most importantly, to be thorough?
Often teachers will grade a report based on how well and to what
extent the student covered the topic at hand. Being thorough is not a habit
that is developed overnight. The opposite of being thorough is being
incomplete, being rushed, and working in haste without any regard for accuracy
or quality. The most perfect is Allaah Most High, Who perfected creation, Who
perfected our religion, and Who guided His Prophet Muhammad (sall
Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam) to be the most perfect among humans in behavior and
in character.
We read in the Muwatta of Imaam Malik "Yahya related to me from
Malik that he had heard that the Messenger of Allaah, may Allaah bless him and
grant him peace, said, 'I was sent to perfect good character'" (Book #47,
Hadeeth #47.1.8).
To be thorough stems from a desire to be perfect to the extent that
this is humanly possible. Seeking perfection in our actions and speech from an
early age helps us to develop a keen eye, not only for thoroughness in our own
life, but also for thoroughness in the lives of those around us. Being thorough
in prayer, for example, teaches us to be patient and to concentrate upon the
words we are reciting and the different positions of the prayer.
Be Focused
One thousand ideas go through your head the moment you stand up for
prayer. Is that you? Really? What do you make of those ideas? Do you process
them? What about when you are sitting in class? Do you find your mind
wandering, daydreaming, and unable to focus on the lecture at hand? Are you
likely to use any excuse whatsoever to leave what you are doing?
Developing the habit of being focused ensures that you are awake,
alert, and totally motivated to work on and complete the task at hand, whatever
it may be. Being distracted early on in childhood by video games, fast-paced
imagery, and constantly changing scenes on television shows contributes to an
inability to concentrate, to focus. Among the best ways to develop focus is to
practice praying with deep concentration to the extent that you are almost
unaware of your surroundings. Allaah Most High tells us in the Qur`aan that the
believers are:
" . those who humble themselves in their prayers" (Al-Mu'minun 23:2)
The humility referred to here results from total focus and
concentration on the fact that one is in the presence of Allaah, standing
before Him, Most High. Do your best to develop focus, no matter what activity
you are engaged in - whether in prayer, in academics, in athletics, or some
other pastime.
Be Punctual
Stop saying over and over again that you are late because of
"Muslim standard time," or the "standard time" of your particular ethnicity.
The last thing we should attribute to Islam is the notion that its teachings
somehow make us late, slow, slugging, and anything but punctual. What a sad
state of affairs, indeed, that we attribute our own weaknesses to our religion
or ethnicity!
Highly successful individuals, be they Muslim or not, understand
and appreciate the value of not only their time but the time of everyone else
with whom they interact. Keeping people waiting for hours on end is neither
something to be proud of nor a habit that has a place in the mindset of a
person who tries to be successful.
One of the central pillars of Islam is prayer, and Allaah and the
Prophet Muhammad (sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam) have given us clear reminders
that we are to establish prayers at their due times.
When `Abdullah (may Allaah be pleased with him) asked "which deed
is the dearest to Allaah?" the Prophet Muhammad (sall Allaahu`alayhi wa sallam)
replied, "To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times" (Saheeh
Bukhaari, Book #10, Hadeeth #505).
If indeed your day is to be considered successful, you must have
prayed all the obligatory prayers at their established times and as many
voluntary prayers as possible. If your day is planned around the times of
prayer, you should not pray exactly at the time when you are to pray but then
come late to all other appointments. Being punctual is a habit which, when
perfected, demonstrates to others the tremendous value that Islam places on
time - not only ours but that of everyone else with whom we interact.
Be Consistent
Apart from all the habits listed above, perhaps the one that is
sure to help you become a highly successful Muslim youth is that of being
consistent. One cannot be truthful one day and a liar the next; one cannot be
trustworthy in one instance and totally unreliable in the next; and so on for
each of the other habits. A Muslim understands from an early age that it is
easier to do something once or whenever we feel like it but much harder to do
something regularly and consistently.
Indeed, the Mother of the Believers `A'ishah (may Allaah be pleased
with her) narrates that "the most beloved action to Allaah's Apostle was that
which is done continuously and regularly" (Saheeh Bukhaari, Book #76, Hadeeth
#469).
Regular and consist actions show that a person has thought about
it, has intended to do it, has planned to do it, and therefore does it.
We urge you to be as consistent as possible, especially in those
areas of your life which need constant improvement, such as your prayers, your
fasting, your manners, your studying habits, etc. Do not say, I am going to
pray all day every day, or fast voluntarily all of the days of every month, or
study all night every night, because such actions cannot be humanly sustained
over a long period of time. Say on the other hand, I am going to be sure to
read at least one part of the Qur`aan every day, or I will strive to help my
parents with at least one household chore every day, or I will try to study at
least one new item every week so that I can be ahead of the lesson plan.
Conclusion
Finally, Muslims aspire to develop all of these habits because, in
doing so, we draw nearer to Allaah Most High. If you are intent on being a
highly successful Muslim youth, then you owe it to yourself to reflect upon
your own life and see how many of these habits are already a part of who you
are and how many you need to further develop or acquire.
We end with a reminder that developing these habits will help you
to emulate the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (sall Allaahu`alayhi wa
sallam). His message and his life are summarized well in a narration of
`Abdullah ibn `Abbas:
Abu Sufyan told me that Heraclius said to him, "When I enquired of
you what he (Muhammad) ordered you, you replied that he ordered you to
establish the prayer, to speak the truth, to be chaste, to keep promises, and
to pay back trusts." Then Heraclius added, "These are really the qualities of a
prophet." (Saheeh Al-Bukhaari, Book #48, Hadeeth #846)
Strive to develop the seven habits listed above and many others
from the Islamic teachings so that you will be among the highly successful
Muslim youth.
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Altaf Husain is a social worker in the United States and has been
a contributing writer to Islam Online since 1998. He can be contacted at [EMAIL
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