Nerea Kaufman created AMQNET-720:
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Summary: Maintaining Balance in a Technological World
Key: AMQNET-720
URL: https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/AMQNET-720
Project: ActiveMQ .Net
Issue Type: Bug
Reporter: Nerea Kaufman
In the modern age of texts, tweets, and status updates, it is of utmost
importance that parents maintain open lines of face-to-face, soul-to-soul
communication with their children. This does not mean resisting a highly
technological world that is not going away, but rather continually exploring
new ways to connect with one another both on and beyond the keyboard. The new
technology in and of itself is not detrimental to children and can be quite
useful to them in many ways, but it must be coupled with daily opportunities
for personal reflection, creative inspiration, and heart connection with
others. It becomes the parents' role to both monitor technological use as their
children's sole means of communication and to provide the space and
encouragement for life-affirming communication and choices.
Today's children often become immersed in a world of technology and friendships
that may seem quite foreign to parents. The more attuned parents are to their
children's interests other than technology, the better able they are to utilize
those interests as opportunities for expanded connection. Parents can view all
interests as possible pathways to enhance real life interactions. Parents must
observe closely what truly brings their children joy, where they are most
authentic, and what makes their eyes sparkle. To light the path of infusing
deeper meaning into everyday life, parents must continually assess whether they
are offering a true understanding of core concepts like authenticity,
self-love, connectedness, gratitude and presence in tandem with their
children's inevitable foray into a fast-paced and ever-changing technological
world. Parents must not only teach these concepts but also model ways for their
children to integrate them into life experiences and relationships.
The invitation for all parents is to actively participate in as many areas of
their children's lives as possible without decreasing their natural move
towards independence. Children's passions when viewed from an expanded
perspective offer rich material and opportunity to connect with them in deep
and joyous ways. Songs, movies, and all veins of creative expression (even
technology) provide optimal entry points into daily conversation and in-depth
discussion. Parents can utilize everyday life to dissect and review the core
concepts mentioned above to expand perspective and enhance the parent/child
bond. The space and opportunity to discuss the touchstones of the day can be
created through a weekly family discussion, a nightly chat at bedtime, the
family dinner, or time spent together in the car with technology off. Parents
must be continually on the lookout for a bridge into their children's world,
while at the same time enforce time-outs from computerized communication.
Due to the fact that the new technology is here to stay, to resist it outright
will create a backlash for parents and children alike. Instead, the best
strategy is to discuss often and enforce expectations regarding appropriate
use. Parents must explain to their children why balance in this area is vital
to their overall well-being. The capacity to be inspired to create in any venue
requires downtime, reflection, openness, and connection to the deeper space
within. It is important for children to understand that there is a place for
multi-tasking and technological communication, but it is the relationship with
their own interior and life itself that ignites their highest potential.
As parents give their children permission to be authentic in their choices,
they must also offer them the parental insight that there are multiple angles
to every choice. Parents can encourage transparency and honesty by creating a
family structure that helps children monitor their choices-such as computer use
on the first floor only and no hand-held devices allowed during meal times,
family outings, or after 8pm. Parents should not be afraid to expect and
enforce accountability, while at the same time remain open to the child's new
world. It is imperative that parents take the time to teach children that
current choices affect future reality. In other words, parents should assist
them in coming to understand that they are the source, not the effect-joy
begets more joy, inspiration begets more inspiration, and also the opposite.
Conscious parenting requires active participation in all aspects of family life
including the explosive use of technology. Parents must remain extremely aware
of their own technological use and their presence within the family. As parents
feel their way in regards to their own relationship to technology, they can
begin to intuitively reach for the openings to interact richly with their
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naturally rather than push too hard at the wrong time. The teenage years are
fast and fleeting. There is much sharing, laughter, togetherness, and JOY to be
had. As parents model balance, authentic living and deep connection, their
beloved children will follow suit in their own way, through not only their
face-to-face, soul-to-soul interactions, but through their inevitable online
interactions as well.
Bio: A modern bridge between the mainstream and the mystical, Annie Burnside is
an author, educator, parent, and soul nurturer specializing in conscious
relationships and spiritual development. As a soul nurturer she helps others
awaken to their own truth in all aspects of life by providing the tools and
encouragement to experience direct divine connection in everyday reality. Annie
created a spiritual support practice in 2005 to support others in balancing the
exterior world with an interior focus. Her recent book Soul to Soul Parenting:
A Guide to Raising a Spiritually Conscious Family (Wyatt-MacKenzie, 2010)
inspires parents to utilize everyday mediums to infuse greater spiritual
awareness into daily family life. She writes the Soul to Soul Perspective
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