Thanks all for the advise. My kids are not the best at doing chores, but at least they are kind, thoughtful human beings! My daughter (13) overheard a phone call I had from a "friend" who was screaming and yelling at her elementary school children while on the phone with me-my dd could hear her in the living room from the kitchen so she picked up the extension. When I hung up I said, "now you know why she drives me so crazy" and my dd's reply was, "Mom, she needs you to talk to-her life is pretty bad." So, clutter and all, I really don't have much to complain about. Thanks! Maria NY ----- Original Message ----- From: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Thursday, January 17, 2002 6:29 PM Subject: [JFC]: Vanetta
> Hi Vanetta, > > I use to tell my ds as he was growing up--"I'm the mom and that's way". > > Sherry in FL > > On Wed, 16 Jan 2002 20:05:08 -0800 (PST) Vanetta Conn > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> writes: > > Hello Maria, Living with you is your children's birthright. Helping > > around your home is another birthright. Obviously, you are not going > > to stop feeding, housing and clothing them if they don't help around > > the house. But there are a thousand and one other things that they > > take for granted that are not their birthright. If these things > > won't motivate them. REMEMBER, YOU ARE THE MOTHER, WHAT YOU SAY > > GOES! (Emphasis for importance!) Somewhere along the line, with our > > guilt about working outside the home and many other factors, we have > > forgotten that we are the parents and that is the only reason we > > need. Whether our children agree or not, we have their best > > interests as our motivation. Children who co-operate and contribute > > add to our society and it is our obligation to teach them this. And > > you are right, many days it is easier to just do it yourself than to > > make them do it. I have learned, if you consistently insist, their > > resistance becomes less and less all the time. Kindes! > > t regards, Vanetta > > "Thoughts have power; thoughts are energy. And you can make your > > world or break it by your thinking."- Susan Taylor > > > > Maria Wahl <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: Getting my kids 13 and 15 > > to do anything is a chore in itself. I am going > > to have to try, but they think living here is just their birthright > > and they > > find it offensive when I try to get them to do anything! I am going > > to keep > > trying! Thanks for the encouragement! > > Maria > > williamsville > > > > > > > > To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your > > heart.- Donald Laird > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Do You Yahoo!? > > Send FREE video emails in Yahoo! Mail. > > ________________________________________________________________ > GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! > Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! > Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: > http://dl.www.juno.com/get/web/. > > *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* > Journey from clutter List Website > http://journeyfromclutter.com > Members Only Page > http://journeyfromclutter.com/MembersOnly/MembersArea.htm > > Unsubscribe: email [EMAIL PROTECTED] with the word 'unsubscribe' in the 'Subject:' field to be removed from the main list. > > To Unsubscribe from the Digest version of the list send the unsubscribe message to [EMAIL PROTECTED] > *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Journey from clutter List Website http://journeyfromclutter.com Members Only Page http://journeyfromclutter.com/MembersOnly/MembersArea.htm Unsubscribe: email [EMAIL PROTECTED] with the word 'unsubscribe' in the 'Subject:' field to be removed from the main list. To Unsubscribe from the Digest version of the list send the unsubscribe message to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
