He now tells his friends (sometimes with a reminder from me) that they have to help him put away these toys, etc., before moving on to the next activity.
And, because his friends are able to understand this concept of responsibility, and they are his friends, they are willing to help.
Wanda,
It never fails to amaze me what kids will do if you tell them clearly what you expect. They may not pick up at home, but if you tell them what is expected at your house they will generally comply. I think people tend to underestimate kids' abilities to follow instructions and meet reasonable expectations.
I almost never have problems with any kids that come to my house or travel with us. My good friend can have the same group of kids and they just don't listen to her - mainly because she's not prepared to enforce rules. I always state the rules very plainly upfront and remind them - if necessary - that they won't be able to come along next time if they don't comply. I seldom have to warn anyone more than once and they're all eager to come again, so apparently they don't mind.
My kids love having their friends over or bringing them on outings and I truly enjoy having the extra kids along, so we have a great time together and everyone is happy.
Diane
