> Dear Vince:
>
> Throughout Sheila's illness...she taught me on so many occasions that it
> is easier to be kind. That to be entrenched in anger...being
> cavalier...thinking certain types of people are better than
> others...being judgmental are all traits which prevent the "kind side"
> from becoming the forefront of our lives.
>
> I struggle with this at times...because I falsely believe it is easier
> to blow someone off than to respond to them...just as Richard's family
> did to Richard. I also struggle with wanting to be angry with his
> family for showing up at his funeral but not for his life...and know
> that some people can not and will not deal with the realities of life.
> For me, it is easier to be kind to his family judge them...it is easier
> to be kind.
>
> Sheila told me long ago that funerals were for the living...to assuage
> their guilt. Her ex-husband came to her memorial service as did a few
> people who had betrayed her many years before. When I first saw them
> arrive I felt angry...and when I saw her ex-husband...I could hear her
> saying "What is that guy doing here?"...but I also heard her say to me
> "Sharon, it is always easier to be kind". I was kind and welcoming and
> I felt so much better.
>
> Bless you Vince. You are not a false prophet and I am honored to know
> you choose your priorities upon principle.
>
> Peace and Love...Sharon
