blonde in the bleachers wrote: >I am sorry but everytime I read some post of some one >having a little hissy fit and declaring they are leaving, it really makes >me want to laugh my ass off.
You know, I usually stay out of these things but this pisses me off. Sometimes if you don't have something constructive to say it is better not to say anything. If Vince were the type of person to constantly threaten to leave, that would be one thing - I have been on lists where this has happened - some melodramatic person constantly threatening to leave in order to get sympathy. This isn't that situation. The Rev was clearly hurt by the emails going back on forth on this issue. Everyone who has ever felt that their words were misrepresented or misconstrued should be able to empathize. Whether the response to Vince was an attack or not is completely irrelevant, in my opinion. If we are a community here, and I sure as hell feel we are, though we don't need to agree, I think we ought to be considerate to others' feelings. What sort of way is it to resolve a misunderstanding (much less a conflict) to throw cold barbs at people who are feeling hurt? These past few weeks have been hard on us individually and collectively, wherever we are and whoever we are. Even if one are not directly affected by the terrorist incidents in the US, my sense is that everyone here feels affected. People I know and love on the internet and in real life have been stressed, and that brings all of our tolerance levels and personal defenses down a notch. I urge everyone to keep talking about these issues, keep talking about Joni, talk about whatever the hell you want, and DO speak up if someone hurts your feeling, DO be open to the process that we all go through as human beings in relationship with others. That process involves conflict resolution, and as someone else pointed out, we are feeling the need for it on this list as well as in the world at large. Now play nice, kids. And if any more of the people I love leave the list I will have to beat them up. :-) kisses, Yael >This is a hard time for everyone and >everyone has a different opinion and a different way of looking at >things, but just because some one may hurt your feelings or disagree with >your beliefs or in the heat of the moment write things that cause you >pain you can't go run away and say you will never post again, what does >that prove? Nothing, except you will miss out on great posts about Joni >Mitchell and her albums. Sometimes events transcend the actual point of >this discussion list, and this one rightfully should, it effects >everyone, but we are a diverse community with different ideas and >beliefs, and sometimes passionate debates are bound to happen.
