Erica wrote:

> Christina Agularia LOOKS like a whore, no one can deny it, of couse
> she isn't a whore, but she has to know what type of visual image she's
> sending with the videos and photo shoots. They aren't tastefully done,
> she's obviously selling her sexuality.

Yael replied:

> i'm sure sex workers look all sorts of different ways, depending on
> their cultural background and their clientele.

Erica then responded:

> Yes, I am sure all over the world that "sex workers" dress in all
> different ways...So because of that fact she doesn't look like a
> whore? 

"High class" hookers and escorts "dress up" to their clients' 
expectations, especially so they can be seen in public with a john and 
not attract unwanted attention.  And cultural background has a great 
deal to do with the way women dress, regardless of their line of work.  
However, it seems that it's predominantly Americans who complain that a 
woman "looks" or "dresses" like a whore.  Which is so typical, given 
our Puritan roots that never ever seem to diminish.

I have a friend, a woman from Caracas, Venezuela who is in the U.S. to 
attain her MBA, who consistently dresses in a manner that probably 98% 
of Americans consider as too provacative.  She wears tight clothing 
most days, and on casual Friday she sometimes exposes some midrift 
skin - horrors!  She's 33, drop-dead gorgeous, and eats like she has a 
tapeworm but works out every day to maintain a VERY nice body.  At her 
former place of work, men occasionally asked to be transferred away 
from her department (Accounting) because they found her too distracting 
to work around.  However, this woman is SO beautiful and SO intelligent 
and SO witty that I would find her distracting to work around if she 
were wearing a burlap sack and blown-out sneakers.

She and I have talked about the way she dresses, about the American 
idea of what's appropriate to wear at work and elsewhere, and she 
refuses to change her style.  For one thing, she says, she has 
already "toned it down" compared to what other women in Caracas wear.  
For another, she says she's comfortable in her clothing, and that's 
important to her.

I think she's right, and I think American standards are ridiculously 
uptight.  Americans run around slapping the label "whore" on any woman 
who makes them FEEL "uncomfortable" (read:  arouses them, especially 
when they're not prepared to be aroused), when what's probably going on 
most of the time is that they WISH she were a whore.

The American double standard for women vs. men is so obvious and 
annoying.  Women had better "dress down" so they aren't perceived to be 
sluts, yet it's okay for a guy to run around with his shirt open just 
enough to show the top of his hairy chest, or in a pair of pants that 
clearly shows the outline of his dick.  Those things can also be 
perceived as sexy and distracting - or not.  And that's the point of my 
post:  it's all in the eye of the beholder.

To those who are uncomfortable with the way other adults dress (as 
opposed to teenagers - and yes I realize that Britney, Christina, Ricky 
and others influence the way teens, especially young teens, want to 
dress, but that's a different discussion), I say:  Get over it, and let 
people dress as they want and be themselves, without all this judgment.

Lori

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Christina 
> Agularia knows what she's doing, she's making alot of $$$, if 
dressing up 
> like a penguin and tap dancing brought home the bacon, she'd be doing 
that. 
> I'm just saying she is doing everything short of wearing only dental 
floss 
> to SELL herself. Now if this is just a discussion about 
defining "whore" 
> it's pointless, I know there are whores that probably wear 3 piece 
suits. Is 
> her image more important than the music? If we went back in time 30 
years 
> with no MTV around would this girl ever make it? I'm just frustrated 
with 
> the fact that musical talent is taking a back seat to T and A like it 
never 
> has before. Have youu seen her latest video? Sorry I'm rambling 
now.......
> 
> Hey she's a genie in a bottle, you gotta rub her the right way.
> 
> Erica
> Oh and I've always thought Jim Morrison was a man whore, I love the 
Doors 
> but I still think that.....
> 
> 
> 
> 
> 
> 
> From: Yael Harlap <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> Reply-To: Yael Harlap <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Subject: whores NJC
> Date: Thu, 14 Nov 2002 23:00:20 -0500
> 
> Erica wrote:
> >Christina Agularia LOOKS like a whore, no one can deny it, of couse
> >she isn't a whore, but she has to know what type of visual image 
she's
> >sending with the videos and photo shoots. They aren't tastefully 
done, 
> >she's
> >obviously selling her sexuality.
> 
> i'm sure sex workers look all sorts of different ways, depending on 
their 
> cultural background and their clientele.
> 
> i'm too tired to say anything else about that right now.
> but i'm sure someone else will. :)
> 
> -yael
> 
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