Re: DJRD - what would you cut ?NJC

[colin]

> It reminds me of the great post from Siresorrow Pat, who said that in a 
>marriage/partnership, there are three things; you, your partner, and the "it" that is 
>the relationship. That realization comes from maturity, I think.

I agree that you 'become one' but only when both are individuals in their own right 
who can and do exist as two separate entities who choose to create 'one'. Closeness is 
good. Enmeshment is not.