I thought that this question was very interesting!!!! Even though Deepak asked for advice from married couples and i don't fit this group, i still wanted to share my thoughts on the topic, having grown up in the states and having had many friends (American) who are in love and then not and then back in love with same person or another...
As you know last Fri was Valentine's Day and even though it is nice to have a day to share and express one's love, i believe that people in the US go crazy about "love"... i don't think many here know exactly what love is and are often confused about whether it is love or not... but the word is used so often here in speech that it's meaning is sometimes underestimated or undervalued!!!
i think it is okay to fall in love b/c sometimes it can happen without one realizing it and without one having any control over it... but you need to pray and find out whether it is actually "love" .... it seems love has many deeper realms---the most important being the spiritual--also there is the physical, emotional, intellectual....etc.... i think a person is in love if he/she has found love on these deeper realms........ No love of any kind can be fully whole without Jesus in the union!!!!!!!! the presence of Jesus is what makes the love complete and full and perfect!!! most youngesters i think are attracted/infactuated to another mostly on physical level and mistake it for "being in love"...
I do believe that Jesus has someone special for each one of us and I think it will be an amazing experience when Jesus unites two people (earthly & heavenly union). God had someone perfect for Adam...Joseph was meant to marry Mother Mary..... i know without a doubt that my dad and mom were meant for each other and God brought them together (i don't know how to explain this but you have to live with them to understand)... i know that many of my JY friends here in Chciago who fervently prayed for their marriages and for their future spouses were blessed by GOD with the perfect partner suited just for them... recently Bro. Pappachan Pallath was here in Chicago giving a retreat and we were blessed to have him stay at our house for a week... of course my dad had his special prayer intention to request of him (and to all others who have come to our house) which of course has to do with my marriage... there was something Bro. said to my dad which really struck me and it was that my dad need not worry about my marriage...when it will be.. whom it will be with...where it will be at...because God has someone special for me and God will bring that person to me or me to him!!!! Bro shared that PRAYER is the most important tool to discern the WILL of GOD for our marriages and spouses!!!! we have to pray for our future life partners!!! We have to be patient and listen to HIS plans for our lives which are more beautiful and more perfect than anything we can plan or dream of!!!! everything happens according to GOD"s time which is the perfect time!!!!
these are just my "ideal" thoughts... i am not married and i have never been in love (so i am not an expert on this topic)... if some of the married people in our group share their understanding of love, it would be good!!!!!
Luv, Bincy :=)
CHICAGO
P.S Sindhu & Sunil i am dying to hear what you have to say on this topic b/c when i see the two of you, i know in my heart and mind that GOD brought you two together!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
From: "PRADEEP GEORGE" To: "JoYNet" Subject: [JOYnet] RE::Valentine's day..is it ok to fall in love ? Date: Sun, 16 Feb 2003 08:53:27 -0600_________________________________________________________________
I think there is nothing wrong in falling love with some one.
But >"young people are so much encouraged and pressurized to somehow fall in > love even at the risk of making a wrong decision and regretting it till the > end of our lives . "
This is not the right ..no doubt... Love is divine.But only for the sake of saying " i too have an affiar" is not the right way ....
Ofcourse there is some one whom Jesus has selected for all of us from the very beginning.And he will reveal whom it is at the right time.We need not ry to know it before that , I think.
We can (and we should) pray for the person whom God have selected for us from eternity .FOr that we need not know who it is...
We had a preist , who taught us to pray for our future life partner. that was during the catechism classes in our tenth standard. I belive it is the right way and i do remember his words during all pray times.
Finally ,deepak has asked for advice from married people in the group.Anyway I am not falling into that category.Still just wanted to tell my views on this matter.
regards and prayers
pradeep george thrissur.
----- Original Message ----- From: "deepak" To: Sent: Sunday, February 16, 2003 9:51 AM Subject: [JOYnet] Valentine's day..is it ok to fall in love ?
> Dear Bros & sis > i have a question for all of u . do u think it is alright for > young people to fall in love ?.be coz of this situation now ..valentines day > is so commerciallised that it would seem a tragedy to have no one with u on > Feb 14 th ..no one to give a card ..etc... > so now young people are so much encouraged and pressurized to somehow fall in > love even at the risk of making a wrong decision and regretting it till the > end of our lives . so Guys what do u suggest ??? > what would Jesus want us to do in such a situatu\ion ...would jesus like us to > fall in love with some one?..is there some one Jesus selected for us in the > very begining ..if there is how will we know?...what are the factors which any > young person should rethink if he or she find herself to be attraced to wards > someone? > i really don't know how many young people are in this group but i certainly > know there are many married people in this group ..think u can enlighten us > with your experience?.... > luv deepak > trivandrum india
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