Todd Walton wrote:
On 11/15/05, Ralph Shumaker <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
This friend is not patient. When she wants something, she wants it
now.
Tell her you're not her bitch, and that if she wants your competent
and free tech support, she's going to have to make concessions.
She has shown remarkable patience.
Oh. I thought she hadn't.
kind that could easily tell me "Forget Linux. Put windows back on if
that's what it takes to get it to work.". And to be honest, I wouldn't
blame her. (She's already mentioned it.)
Then tell her you'll install Windows, and that she is then on her own.
Seriously, your friend's impatience (or not?) and possible
ingratitude are not this list's problem. They're yours. The way I
deal with those problems when I have them is to say, either literally
or just to myself, "I'm doing this as a favor to you. I'll try my
best, and if that's not good enough for you, you're free to seek help
elsewhere." There's only so much you can do.
I've been exactly where you seem to be. Some people think family ties
means more obligation than it does.
I did not mean to imply list responsibility. I apologize. I meant only
to convey the desperation that I sometimes feel. I do want to help
her. And I don't want to keep her waiting indefinitely. She is a
patient person until she doesn't want to wait anymore. I guess we are
all the same in that regard. But her decisiveness is legendary. She'll
wait longer when neither she nor her children need it. She'll won't
wait if she feels like there's a need for it. And if she must wait for
something needed, she wants to keep the wait short and to know how
long. (Anyway, *not* the list's responsibility, just a note of my
environment. And I'm not complaining. I admire this about her even
though it *is* somewhat inconvenient at times.)
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