> 
> What about those of us who make lace, do jigsaw puzzles, read, knit,
> sew, 
> try and solve Sudoku puzzles (the coffee break ones can take me a
> couple of 
> hours!), while watching the TV? Perhaps we'll develop Alzheimer's
> slowly!

i was hoping crochet would be added to the list.  it is a hobby, so i
guess i'm in there.  i read a lot when i'm searching the internet,  so
i'm going to count that i exercised my brain there as well.  as for tv!
 i don't watch it, but i watch the computer monitor long enough to
count for the same thing.  

> she 
> never exercised her brain - was never allowed to by her husband who 
> controlled and decided everything in their lives. Was never allowed a
hobby because he wouldn't spend a penny that wasn't necessary and he
controlled all the money that came into the household. 

i remember my dad trying to tell my mother he thought a man should be
the head of the household and then years later and 5 children later we
lived in a double income house that barely got by.  he was then heard
saying there is no way to run a household without two incomes!  he also
said when he was first married he thought the women did women things
around the house and the man did man things.  he  learned to cook, do
laundry, and clean the house as well as my mother.  her work was just
as important as his.  

as far as i can remember my mother divied out the paychecks.  she paid
the bills with it and decided what was spent on what.  he said what he
wanted and she gave it to him, but the rest was all her decision.  if i
ever marry, i would never live in a household where i didn't have equal
say-so.  i'm not bossy, but i can't see developing the idea that i have
no rights paying my own bills and getting part of the paycheck if i do
all the cooking and cleaning! i really feel sorry for any man who has
to rely on my cooking and cleaning!  i am living proof that women are
not always good at domestic chores!! lol!  when i was a teenager i
swore i would marry a chef so he could do all the cooking. 

> 
> She has no idea she has so much money and GBP600 plus a week is going
on keeping her in residential care. There's enough money to keep her
for the next sixteen years, but it's not likely that she'll live that
long - if you  can call it a life, but then I don't think she had a
life before she  developed Alzheimers. 

my grandmother is widowed and has dimentia and alzheimers and she
doesn't remember the house she lives in is hers.  she is always trying
to go home!  she has lived in this house for over 30 years and she gets
up fighting mad yelling and crying she wants to go home.  it is the
medication that makes her paranoid like this, but the side affects are
worth prolonging her life.  she will eventually end up bed-ridden and
unable to control her own bowels or forget altogether how to go to the
bathroom.  she is at the stages now where she wears diapers, but she so
far is able to get up and go when she really has to go, just not in
good time.

she also was a home maker, but she did work before she was married. 
she is able to read, but not very well.  back when she was a little
girl schooling was not required and through out her life she only read
magazines,the newspaper, and the bible reglarly. right now her eyes are
bad, but she can read the clock still.  she is 87  going on 88 this
year.
 


from suzy in tennessee,u.s.a.

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