Glen, I have no problem with what you're suggesting. Those who need it may use it and those who don't don't.
I know in another genalogy program, you may choose to add the married name for someone, as far as I remember you may set it permanently, have it ask you everytime or turn it off. We all chose the options that works best for us. My point was only that we often make assumptions that are not always valid. My grandfather is listed in many genealogy files with the same last name as me, because all his siblings took the farmname as well as his children, he however never did, and only used his patronym. While the rest of the family have Hildrum on their tombstones, his does not. Anne ----- Original Message ----- From: "Glen Ballard" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Wednesday, June 29, 2005 6:03 PM Subject: RE: [LegacyUG] Married Names > Anne, > > Your assumptions are correct in that they will be buried with their surname > at death. However, lets consider several things here: > > 1.) The cost of engraving - Most of the time they won't put "born Hansen." > They might use "Eva Hansen Smith" or "Eva H Smith" > (this is what I have seen in photographing over 4500 headstones in at least > 10 states in the US. I have been in thousands of cemeteries and seen > millions of headstones. I drive through cemeteries I pass by even if I > don't have family buried there.) > > 2.) The records in the office are usually by Surname. > > 3.) The information for the deceased is obtained after death. What if > there is no family and the friend who is assisting with burial arrangements > didn't know a maiden name? The name would appear as "Eva Smith" or "Eva > Smithe" or however the person writes it down for the mortuary / cemetery / > vital records. Not all information on a death certificate, mortuary > records, or cemetery records is correct. This information is only as good > as the person giving it. We must remember that the person lying 6' under > this stone would have been the one to know the information and unless they > made pre-burial arrangements, there could be errors. (And if they made > pre-burial arrangements, were they already suffering from dementia or > Alzheimer's - slight or full blown?) > > 4.) The stone mason carving the information - Did he/she make a mistake? > Were they given the correct information? Was the information legible? > > There are many situations that can affect this. > > My whole point was to have a way to click a check box to include the married > name on lists I am printing so I can send this list to cemetery, County, or > State offices for them to look up information for me. Instead of re-invent > the wheel or double my data entry by creating an AKA to include the married > name - which I think is a little overkill, I think we should have the OPTION > to include this. As has been discussed in this thread, people are concerned > that this won't be an option, but put the married name on each person. Why > do people ASSUME. Check the box or not would be their choice if this > feature were to be added. > > My 2 cents worth > > Glen > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Anne > Hildrum > Sent: Wednesday, June 29, 2005 8:18 AM > To: [email protected] > Subject: Re: [LegacyUG] Married Names > > Isn't it likely they have the name on the tombstone that they died with? > > Example > Eva Hansen married Ole Smith, she never > changed her name and most likely, a least here would be buried as Eva > Hansen. Sometimes it may be addded the wife of Ole Smith. However if she > changed her name to Smith she would be buried here as Eva Smith, but the > tombstone would often say born Hansen as well or something to that effect. > > It is so easy for us all to make assumptions from what we are most used to, > but digging into our genealogy we often find we need to change those > assumptions. > > I may often find some distant relatives having had a child, and I often > wonder what the child's last name is. Did S/he get the father's, the > mother's or a combination of boths. > > Anne > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Elizabeth Cunningham" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: <[email protected]> > Sent: Wednesday, June 29, 2005 12:55 PM > Subject: Re: [LegacyUG] Married Names > > > > Must be your part of the country, I have never seen maiden names on > > tombstones. > > > > Elizabeth C > > > > Ron Bernier wrote: > > > > > Most headstones that I have seen do in fact have the ladies maiden > > > name carved on the stone. > > > > > > --On Tuesday, June 28, 2005 11:22 PM -0700 Glen Ballard > > > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > >> One more thing to add to this list of useful things for married name: > > >> > > >> 3.) Cemetery research - They aren't buried using their maiden name. > > >> > > >> Glen > > > > > > > > > > > Legacy User Group Etiquette guidelines can be found at: > > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > > > > To find past messages, please go to our searchable archives at: > > http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup%40mail.millenniacorp.com/ > > > > To unsubscribe please visit: > > http://www.legacyfamilytree.com/LegacyLists.asp > Legacy User Group Etiquette guidelines can be found at: > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > > To find past messages, please go to our searchable archives at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup%40mail.millenniacorp.com/ > > To unsubscribe please visit: > http://www.legacyfamilytree.com/LegacyLists.asp > Legacy User Group Etiquette guidelines can be found at: > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > > To find past messages, please go to our searchable archives at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup%40mail.millenniacorp.com/ > > To unsubscribe please visit: > http://www.legacyfamilytree.com/LegacyLists.asp Legacy User Group Etiquette guidelines can be found at: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp To find past messages, please go to our searchable archives at: http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup%40mail.millenniacorp.com/ To unsubscribe please visit: http://www.legacyfamilytree.com/LegacyLists.asp
