On Mon, Dec 13, 2004 at 12:12:06PM +1300, Nick Rout wrote: > an imaginary idiot named V has been posting inappropriate and annoyingly > idiotic messages to the list for a fortnight. Several people > independently decide he needs to be given an explanation on how to > behave. They each send him a private message, a flame perhaps. None of > them know that the other has spoken up, so all send him a private > message. - maybe it would have been better if one person had flamed V to > the list, then the others would know that the "job" had been done, and > wouldn't feel the same need any more.)
i disagree with that. getting called out in public once puts you on the spot in front of everybody, maybe you deserve it, but it is humiliating nontheless. besides it is very easely put off as being from the one fool that is always ranting about such issues so you'll ignore it making yourself believe that the others don't agree with the caller anyways. getting 10 personal mails does not put you on the spot, but only shows that 10 people care about your behaviour. the latter is much more likely to impress you and actually make you change, because it is not humiliating and allows you to change gracefully. greetings, martin. -- looking for a job doing pike programming, sTeam/caudium/pike/roxen training, sTeam/caudium/roxen and/or unix system administration anywhere in the world. -- pike programmer travelling and working in europe open-steam.org unix system- bahai.or.at iaeste.(tuwien.ac|or).at administrator (stuts|black.linux-m68k).org is.schon.org Martin B�hr http://www.iaeste.or.at/~mbaehr/
