On 13/07/2012 00:01, Johnny A. Solbu wrote:
On Thursday 12 July 2012 22:28, Marja van Waes wrote:
The Right thing to do is to always mean what you're saying. If
you don't, you're a lier and can't be trusted.
I sometimes have a friend over (let's call him Y) that sometimes
doesn't want to talk to X. Sometimes I used to get a phone from X
ansking if I kow where Y is. If Y didn't want to talk to X (which
he'd declare before I answered the phone), I'd often close my eyes or
turn my back to Y and say to X on the phone that I don't see him, or
that I hadn't seen him in a while. Sometimes I could say that I
hadn't seen him since the last time I saw him.
Both statements are true. With my back to him, I can't see him, hence
I didn't see him. And I didn't see him in a while, al thou a very
/short/ while. A few seconds is still a while. I mean, how long is a
piece of string? :-)=
The trick is often to answer their exact question, and not what they
want to know. I learned this from a couple who are friends of the
family, and which does quite a bit of counceling.
I know this trick, I use it at times.
Thanks a lot for mentioning it, because now is the first time I really
think about it.
I'd feel betrayed if I were Y and found out X was with you.
The sooner I stop using this trick, the better.
