SA: P.S. Ron, I hope I didn't say anything disturbing awhile back when I said your wife seems like one of the residents I work with. I guess in the black and white of it, this does come across unsettling
[Ron] Never took it that way SA, I think, If I remember, You found it insightful as to why some of the Residents behave the way they do. I find it is Quite common. People who are used to defining relationships Through conflict often do not know a better way to Define a relationship. I define relationships through Harmonious resolve and find conflict difficult because It is laden with emotion that often times makes resolve Difficult, but folks are raised differently and now I understand The need to respond with more passion for it is a cue or symbol Of care and concern, I find now, that I'm aware of this, Coming to a Harmonious resolve is easier with people who Use this method. Many times they just want to express Frustration and know someone cares enough to listen And argue it out. It is an alien concept for me, I tend To avoid conflict because of the violence I experienced. It frightens me and I feel threatened, Typically I over React in these situations due to my hypersensitivity to it (Defense mech). This past year has been a learning process In tempering this response, gaining more control and Practice in successful resolve in these situations... I've come a long way baby... -thanks SA, for everything. Moq_Discuss mailing list Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org Archives: http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ http://moq.org.uk/pipermail/moq_discuss_archive/
