Hello all,
I would handle this type of incident as I would any other disturbance at
a dance (e.g. arguments, fights, drunkenness, inappropriate behavior or
language). Ask the offending party (parties) to [1] restrain their
behavior, and if it continues [2] leave the dance, and if that is
ineffective [3] summon a law enforcement officer. I wouldn't presume to be
judge, jury, police re a restraining order, nor attempt to enforce it.
Fortunately, in 25 years of managing contradances, beyond overexuberant
dancing and an occasional interpersonal exchange with raised voices, and a
tispy person or two, I've never had the opportunity to go beyond solution
[1]. The contradance clientele in these parts are pretty mellow.
George Fowler
(1st Sat dance series - Blue Hill, Maine)
[email protected]
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Today's Topics:
1. Restraining Orders (Chrissy Fowler)
2. Re: Restraining Orders (Melody Ball)
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Date: Sun, 15 Jun 2008 23:04:23 -0400
From: Chrissy Fowler <[email protected]>
Subject: [Organizers] Restraining Orders
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Hello fellow organizers,
A number of years ago, when I was involved in producing a dance in New
Hampshire, we had the following incident at one of our monthly dances:
A female dancer asked one of our committee members to intervene because a
man (with whom she had once been in a relationship) had appeared at the
dance. Both were regular dancers in our region. She asserted that there
was a restraining order out on this man, and that he was prohibited from
being within a certain number of yards of her at any given time. She
didn't have a copy of the restraining order, at least not that I remember.
The situation got fairly tense and volatile. No physical violence, but
many heated exchanges. As I recall, after some requests from the
committee member, he left the dance.
I was wondering if other dance organizers have had to deal with that sort
of thing -- whether restraining orders are involved or not. And I
particularly would like to hear what people think the role and
responsibility of dance organizers is in this sort of situation.
Thanks,
Chrissy Fowler
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Date: Mon, 16 Jun 2008 07:21:10 -0700 (PDT)
From: Melody Ball <[email protected]>
Subject: Re: [Organizers] Restraining Orders
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It seems to me that the onus is on her, to prove that
there are orders extant: she knows that he's a
dancer, right? So she should have a copy of the
orders with her at any given dance, and be prepared to
show them to the authorities (that SHE calls to
enforce the orders).
It is in no way incumbent upon organizers, IMO, to
enforce restraining orders. That's a matter for law
enforcement.
Melody Ball
Dallas
--- Chrissy Fowler <[email protected]> wrote:
Hello fellow organizers,
A number of years ago, when I was involved in
producing a dance in New Hampshire, we had the
following incident at one of our monthly dances:
A female dancer asked one of our committee members
to intervene because a man (with whom she had once
been in a relationship) had appeared at the dance.
Both were regular dancers in our region. She
asserted that there was a restraining order out on
this man, and that he was prohibited from being
within a certain number of yards of her at any given
time. She didn't have a copy of the restraining
order, at least not that I remember. The situation
got fairly tense and volatile. No physical
violence, but many heated exchanges. As I recall,
after some requests from the committee member, he
left the dance.
I was wondering if other dance organizers have had
to deal with that sort of thing -- whether
restraining orders are involved or not. And I
particularly would like to hear what people think
the role and responsibility of dance organizers is
in this sort of situation.
Thanks,
Chrissy Fowler
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home 207-338-0979 cell 603-498-3506
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