In Asheville, we have this (IMHO) excellent flyer (authored by Diane Silver) on a similar "creepiness" problem. Hope you find some of this useful. www.diane-silver.com/downloads/Policy&EtiquetteBrochure-1.pdf
------ Lindsay Morris 859-539-9900 > On Apr 21, 2014, at 6:04 PM, Alan Winston <[email protected]> wrote: > > While there are things to be said for having a code of conduct (and my > organization does have one), > having one in place is neither necessary nor sufficient for dealing with this > person. > > Is it possible to have a comforting female organizer get in touch with some > of the "disappeared" women > and discuss what's happened with them? This may help assure them that the > organization cares > about their comfort and safety and that of the dancers who continue, and will > also help to establish > how far over the boundaries his behaviors have gone, which might also help > you to decide whether > the guy needs a talking to and careful watching with banning in reserve, or > just immediate banning. > (Or whether the women not coming back to contra is all an unfortunate > coincidence.) > > -- Alan > > > > > > >> On 4/21/2014 1:06 PM, Quintin Aspin wrote: >> Down here in Baltimore we are having a problem with a dancer who >> seems to be harassing young ladies , He seems particularly fond of >> monopolizing their dances if he can , then moves on to sending >> e-mails and giving small gifts ... Shortly there after these >> unfortunately targeted newcomers seem to stop coming to the dance ... >> They do not complain to anyone in charge , they just disappear from >> the dance community .. >> >> It is a situation that I , as president of BFMS , only recently >> became aware of , but in retrospect it seems to have been happening >> to some extent since he moved down from the Boston area . >> If this is a "new" behavior and he is amenable to change I will >> either talk to him , or suggest the American dance chair has a few >> words with him ... But if , as I now suspect , he was doing this same >> behaviors in the Boston area perhaps firmer action might be needed . >> >> There was , in fact , a discussion over on the callers list about a >> dancer in the Boston area that seems eerily reminiscent of the >> situation here .. >> >> If any of the Boston area dance folks know of whom I speak , or if he >> was banned from any dances up there it would be enormously helpful if >> you could send me an e-mail with just the first name of the gent in >> question .... >> >> You can send it to my regular e-mail ( the one I am subscribed to >> this list ) or to be at >> President ( at ) bfms.org ... >> >> A thousand thanks from me and from a lot of dancers who hopefully >> will not have to find out first hand about which they should be >> thankful ... >> >> Rgds Quintin >> >> Ps I have looked at all the contra dance "codes of conduct" I can >> find and we are having a getting to get one set up here .... >> Hopefully not shutting the gate after the horse ... etc.. >> _______________________________________________ >> Organizers mailing list >> [email protected] >> http://www.sharedweight.net/mailman/listinfo/organizers > > _______________________________________________ > Organizers mailing list > [email protected] > http://www.sharedweight.net/mailman/listinfo/organizers
