From: "Tawba N" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Subject: anger............ Date: Wed, 02 May 2007 02:01:58 +0400
How to control temper? In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers. ANGER like love, sadness, happiness, weeping, etc. is a natural emotion of a human being, and it is possible that at an occurrence or incident one may experience the emotion of anger. Thus when one experiences the natural emotion of anger, there is no sin and one will not be accountable for ones anger, but what one does or says when one is angry will definitely be taken to account by their Lord All-Mighty. It is the deeds a person does when he is angry that will determine his reward or his punishment in the Sight of Allah Subhanah! Al-Muwatta Hadith 47.11:------------ Malik related from Ibn Shihab from Humayd ibn Abd ar-Rahman ibn Awf that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (saws) and said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws), teach me some words which I can live by. Do not make them too much for me, lest I forget." The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "Do not be angry." Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 5145 Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri--------------Allah's Messenger (saws) mentioned anger, saying, "Some are swift to anger and swift to cool down, the one characteristic making up for the other; some are slow to anger and slow to cool down, the one characteristic making up for the other; but the best of you are those who are slow to anger and swift to cool down, and the worst of you are those who are swift to anger and slow to cool down." He continued, "Beware of anger, for it is a live coal on the heart of the descendant of Adam. Do you not notice the swelling of the veins of his neck and the redness of his eyes? So when anyone experiences anything of that nature he should lie down and cleave to the earth." Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 1740 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud-----------------The Prophet (saws) said: A believer does not taunt, curse, abuse or talk indecently. Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 29 Narrated by Mu'adh ibn Jabal----------------------------I said to Allah's Messenger (saws): Inform me about an act which would entitle me to get into Paradise , and remove me away from Hell-Fire. He (the Prophet (saws)) said: You have asked me about a matter (which ostensibly appears to be) difficult but it is easy to those for whom Allah, the Exalted, has made it easy. Worship Allah and do not associate anything with him, establish prayer, pay the Zakat, observe the fast of Ramadan and perform Hajj to the (Sacred) House (Ka'bah). He (saws) further said: Should I not direct you to the gateways of good? Listen to me: The fasting is a shield against evil, the charity extinguishes (the fire of sin) just as water extinguishes fire. Then he (saws) said: Should I not direct you to the highest level of this matter, to the pillar on which (it all rests) and its top? I said: O Allah's Messenger (saws) yes, (do tell me). He (saws) said: The uppermost level of the matter is al-Islam. Its pillar is the prayer and its top is Jihad. He (saws) then said: Should I not inform you of the sheet anchor of all this? I said: O Messenger of Allah (saws) (of course do it). He (saws) took hold of his tongue and said: Exercise restraint on it. I said: O Messenger of Allah (saws), would we be held responsible for what we say with it? Thereupon he (saws) said: O Mu'adh, may your mother be bereaved! Will anything else besides (irresponsible, evil, abusive, vain) talk cause the people to be thrown into the Hell-Fire upon their faces or on their nostrils? Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4762 Narrated by Mu'adh ibn Jabal Two men reviled each other in the presence of the Prophet (saws) and one of them became excessively angry so much so that I thought that his nose will break up on account of excess of anger. The Prophet (saws) said: I know a phrase which, if he repeated, he could get rid of this angry feeling. They asked: What is it, O Messenger of Allah (saws)? He (saws) replied: He should say: I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Shaytaan. The emotion of anger is instigated by the accursed enemy of man, the Shaytaan; and as soon as one experiences anger and before he does anything which he regrets, he should first and foremost and immediately seek refuge in Allah The Most High from the accursed Shaytaan by declaring Aoodobillahe minas Shaytaan-ar-rajeem (I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Shaytaan); it is expected that Allah Subhanah will protect the person who sincerely declares this statement from the instigations of the Shaytaan. If the anger still persists, the Messenger of Allah (saws) guided that the person must immediately sit down if he is standing, and if he is sitting, he should cleave the earth and lie down. (Have you ever seen a person lying down being angry??) Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 5114 Narrated by Abu Dharr------------------- Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When one of you becomes angry while standing he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down." If that does not work to appease ones anger, one must perform the wudu (ablution); and if the anger still persists after ablution, one should offer a couple of rakah of nafl prayers; and if the anger still persists, one should leave the place and go for a walk or a drive. Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4766 Narrated by Atiyyah as-Sa'di-------------AbuWa'il al-Qass said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as-Sa'di. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah who reported the Messenger of Allah (saws) as saying: Anger comes from the Shaytaan, the Shaytaan was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution. Anger is but only a natural emotion, and what one does or says when one is angry will determine his status and rank in the Sight of Allah Subhanah. Al-Muwatta Hadith 47.12------------------------ Yahya related from Malik from Ibn Shihab from Said ibn al-Musayyab from Abu Hurayra that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "A strong person is not the person who throws his adversaries to the ground. A strong person is he who contains himself when he is angry." Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4759 Narrated by Mu'adh ibn Jabal------------The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: if anyone suppresses anger when he is in a position to give vent to it, Allah, the Exalted, will call him on the Day of Resurrection over the heads of all creatures, and ask him to choose any of the bright and large eyed maidens he wishes. Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 5116 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar-------------------Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "No one has swallowed back anything more excellent in the sight of Allah, Who is Great and Glorious, than anger he restrains, seeking to please Allah, The Most High." Verses from the holy Quran to calm oneself from anger------------------------- Whenever you find yourself in a situation which gives vent to anger, immediately seek refuge in Allah Subhanah from the evil of the Shaytaan by declaring Aoodobillahe minas Shaytaan-ar-rajeem (I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Shaytaan); and also recite the 113th Surah Al-Falaq and 114th Surah An-Naas as often as you can .. it is expected that Allah Subhanah will protect the person who sincerely wishes to seek refuge in Him from the instigations of the accursed Shaytaan. Allah and His Messenger (saws) have time and time again encouraged and commanded the believers to keep very good relations with ones relatives, kith and kin; and it would not behoove or befit one who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to intentionally avoid meeting or keeping away from ones relatives. Our humble advice to you would be to attend the family gatherings, and if perchance someone says or does something which gives vent to your anger, control your anger, seek forgiveness for them and for yourself from the Lord Most Gracious, and refrain from saying or doing anything which would jeopardize the blood-relationship which Allah Subhanah has Himself created for you. If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray. Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength. === Ingin belajar Islam sesuai Al Qur'an dan Hadits? 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