Major Sins # 23
Not treating co-wives fairly
One of the things that Allaah has enjoined in His Book is fair treatment of
co-wives.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your
ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of
your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e., neither
divorced nor married). And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear
Allaah by keeping away from all that is wrong, then Allaah is Ever
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
[al-Nisaa 4:129]
The justice that is required here is a fair division of nights, and the giving
of each wife her rights as regards spending and clothing. This does not refer
to emotions or love, because man has no control over his feelings. But some
people, when they marry more than one wife, favour one and neglect the other,
spending more time with one wife and spending more on her, and ignoring the
other.
This is haraam, and the person who does this will come on the Day of
Resurrection in the condition described by the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) in the hadeeth narrated by Abu Hurayrah: "Whoever has two
wives and gives one of them preferential treatment, he will come on the Day of
Resurrection with half of his body leaning."
(Narrated by Abu Dawud, 2/601; see also Saheeh al-Jaami, 6491).
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In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate
"May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You"
Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with
Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah
guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one
can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness
that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah
As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu
Etiquette of offering Greetings
Abu Umamah Sudaiy bin Ajlan Al-Bahili (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "The person nearest to Allah is one who is
the first to offer greeting."[Abu Dawud].
The narration in At-Tirmidhi is: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) was asked: "O
Messenger of Allah! When two persons meet, who should greet the other first?"
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "The person nearest to Allah (i.e., one who
is more obedient) and therefore closer to Allah will say: As-Salam first."
133/858 - Riyad Us-Saliheen (Gardens of the Righteous)
Commentary:
The degree of a man's humbleness and modesty will be measured by the degree of
his nearness to Allah. One who is nearer to Allah is always the first to offer
As-Salam to others, while others stick to their stuck-up behaviour
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