When Last did you Hug or Kiss your Child ?
I ran into a stranger as she passed by, "Oh excuse me please" was my reply. She
said, "Please excuse me too; I wasnt watching for you."
We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.
But at home a different story is told, How we treat our loved ones, young and
old. Later that day, cooking the evening meal, My son stood beside me very
still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down. "Move out of the way," I said with a
frown. He walked away, his little heart broken. I didnt realize how harshly I
had spoken.
While I lay awake in bed, a still small voice came to me and said, "While
dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use, but the family you love, you
seem to abuse. Go and look on the kitchen floor, You will find some flowers
there by the door. Those are the flowers he brought for you. He picked them
himself: pink, yellow and blue. He stood very quietly not to spoil the
surprise, you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.
" By this time, I felt very small, And now my tears began to fall. I quietly
went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.
"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found them out by the tree. I picked them because they are pretty
like you. I knew you would like them, especially the blue."
I said, "Son, I am very sorry for the way I acted today; I should not have
yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, thats okay. I love you anyway."
I said, "Son, I love you too, and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."
"The Messenger of Allah (Sallahu Alaihee Wasallam) kissed Hasan bin Alee and
Al-Aqra bin Haabis sitting with him.
So Al-Aqra said:
"Indeed I have 10 children and I have not kissed any of them."
So the Messenger of Allah[pbuh]looked at him and said:
"Whoever does not have mercy, would not be given any mercy."
This hadith shows us that whoever does not have mercy towards young children,
then he himself would be prevented from receiving any mercy. This is because
the rewards and recompense of actions are based upon and will be the same as
the type of action that is done.
As comes in another Hadith:
In our hectic lives and in trying to realise our materialistic ambitions let us
not be oblivious to those who are truly near and dear to us.
To most people you are just a number to someone you may mean the world!
So…honestly,
When LAST DID YOU KISS OR HUG your child ???
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When was the Last Time you Raced
with your Wife?
You might mockingly or disapprovingly smile, yet the question remains, for it
bespeaks an invitation to you to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu
alayhi wa sallam, in his kind attitude toward his wives.
If you claim to follow and love the Noble Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu
alayhi wa sallam, Sunnah, in keeping a beard, cleaning your teeth with a Siwaak
(tooth stick) and shortening your clothes to reach above the ankle, you are
likewise required to emulate him in the way he treated his spouses .
Moreover, the leniency, mercy and patience of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi
wa sallam, with his wives is not merely his tradition, but an obligation
confirmed by many Quranic verses, among which is the one in which Allaah The
Almighty Says (what means): {And live with them in kindness.} [Quran 4:20]
He (pbuh) said: "He is the best amongst you who is the kindest towards his
wives and I am the kindest amongst you towards my wives."
Thus, racing was a compassionate gesture of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa
sallam, in order to be friendly and open with his wives.
as a young and thin girl, she was once accompanying the Prophet, sallallaahu
alayhi wa sallam, on one of his journeys. He, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam
asked his Companions to move ahead of them, which they did. He, sallaallahu
alayhi wa sallam, then asked to race with her; she did and won.
Aaishah [Allah be pleased with her] narrates that
Some time later, after she had forgotten about this, she was with the Prophet,
sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, on another of his journeys and he wanted to race
her. She wanted to excuse herself, by telling him she could not, since she had
gained some weight, but he, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, insisted. They raced
and this time he (pbuh) won; so the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam,
laughed and said; “This [is] for that.”
Some husbands contend that they do not race with their wives because they are
too busy and have many responsibilities. Our retort is that by no means can
they be busier than the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, who bore the
responsibility of conveying the Message of Islam to the entire world.
He also led the army in combat alongside running errands for his family and
doing household chores. Nevertheless, all this did not stop him from twice
racing with his wife Aaishah[RA] .
Other husbands might argue that the streets are not a suitable place for
racing; so, they can surely take their wives away from people, on a picnic.
Moreover, competition is not just in running.
One can compete to win in a permissible electronic game or general knowledge
quiz, in which one can ask each other questions and keep score.
A third group of husbands believes that such competitions may cause their wives
to become too bold and eventually challenge them.
This is not true, because the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, raced with
his wife, so this is an act to be followed, for copying his behaviour with his
wives can bring nothing but good.
Also, modern research has established that being kind and easygoing with ones
wife makes it easier for her to be mindful of you.
There are lessons to be learned from the aforementioned incident related by
Aaishah concerning the Prophet’s, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, kindness toward
his wives.
1- The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, was the one to ask for a race
both times.
This teaches husbands that they should take the initiative in such
competitions. Wives may be too busy with housework or fear rejection or, as is
the generally innate nature of women, be too shy to propose such an idea.
However, on their part, they should try to urge their husbands when they see
they are free and in a good mood.
2- A husband should not incessantly brag of superiority over his wife.
We notice that the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, outran Aaishah after
she had already outran him the first time.
3- Alternately, a husband should neither always deliberately lose for the sake
of his wife or the competition would be meaningless.
The factor that decided the win of Aaishah the first time was her youth and
fitness, and when she put on some weight, the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa
sallam, outran her.
4- A husband should remember that such competitions are just for amiability and
fun. Neither of the spouses should get worked up or a row could ensue and the
activity would lose its desired aim. This can be understood from the reaction
of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, who only cheerfully referred to
his win to counter that of Aaishah's .
Verily in the noble way of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam is there a
recipe for happiness.
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