In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate "May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You" Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu
ANGER http://inter-islam.org/condex.htm INTRODUCTION The aim and objective to read this essay is to practice what you learn and follow the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad ( ) and not to become angry. It is really common that a comment or criticism or someone behaving badly makes someone angry. Becoming angry immediately is natural but becoming angry is such a way that it goes beyond its limits is certainly blameworthy. This includes doing all the things that anger demands a person to do. Each and everyone of us should know from which spiritual malady we suffer from and try our utmost best to get rid of our spiritual maladies. >From these spiritual maladies, there is one malady which is anger. This is >when a person goes beyond their limits, and it is this very anger that causes >great harm to a person in the World and surely in the Hereafter. There are many people that suffer great hardships and sorrow throughout their lives because they carried out all the things that their anger demanded them to do. A common example is when the husband divorces his wife in the state of anger without even thinking what he is doing and in the end the consequence and result is only regret and hardships in this world and in the hereafter. WHAT IS ANGER? Anger is a secret weapon of man towards of evils but sometimes its result’s in the destruction of many noble qualities. It snatches away the wisdom of man and thus he becomes a brute beast devoid of any sense. Anger is a temptation of shaytaan and deception of shaytaan Anger is the root of all evils. Anger is a spark of fire that are always bursting. Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person Iman (FAITH) The meaning of anger is a rage fierce, displeasure, passion excited by a sense of wrong , physical pain, inflammation, mad, hot tempered, choleric, inflamed, A violent passion excited by real or supposed injury. Anger is the strong feeling caused by extreme displeasure. Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure and hostility. ANGER AND WRATH. When someone is angry, mad, and reaches a state of having wrath against any person, he should make a special Dua. In doing so he will cool down . It is reported that the Messenger of Allah said ( narrated by Sulaiman Ibn Sard and reported by Bukhari and Muslim ) that while Sulaiman was with the Prophet ( ), two persons were blaming each other. The face of one became red and his jugular veins swelled. the Prophet ( ) said. I know a statement if he or she say's it then the person with anger will cool down. The person with anger should say : "I SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM SATAN THE OUTCAST." IS ANGER LAWFUL OR NOT ? Anger is lawful in cases of religious affair's when its honours are at stake. It is an effective preventive measure to safeguard the dignity of man. A person who has no anger is called a coward because he has got no true faith in Allah. The person fears the creation and not the creator. This doesn't give the right for youngsters to become angry with parents when they don't get what they want. If a person doesn't practice Islam, a person disobeys the command of Allah or a person doesn't listen to his parents then to become angry with such a person can be lawful. But the person shouldn't become too angry because in Islam extreme anger is unlawful because it creates opposition and bitterness. It is undesirable for a pious man to lose his temper, due to jokes, frivolous talks, quarrels, criticism and greed for wealth. The real strength of a man lies in controlling his wrath. i.e. Anger. It is reported in a Hadith on the authority of Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) that the messenger of Allah (Mohammed ( ) Peace and blessing of Allah be upon him said : "The man is not a good wrestler; the strong man is in fact the person who controls himself at the time of anger." the above Hadith is stated in Bukhari. Anger is unlawful because it destroys the faith of a man. Bah bin hakim (Allah be please with him) Reported that the messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) . Said: Verily anger spoil's faith just as aloes spoils honey . It is stated in Bukhari.: " A person should be cautious from being angry." It has been narrated by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) That Allah's Messenger Muhammad ( ) Said: “ The strong is not the one who over comes the people by his strength” "But the strong is the one who controls him while in anger." In another narration by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him man said to the Prophet Muhammad ( ) Advise me. The Prophet Muhammad (). Said : " Do not become angry “ The man asked the same question again and again and the Prophet Muhammad () Replied by in case by saying: “ Do not become angry and furious” By looking from the advise given by our beloved Prophet Muhammad () we shouldn't become anger and furious. If we remember the advise and saying of our beloved Prophet Muhammad ( )then the person becoming angry will control his anger. But the youngsters of today have forgotten the teaching of our Prophet Muhammad () there become angry and furious for small reason like if their parent tell them to do something which their donut like there say to the parent in anger that I donut what to do it like cleaning the house or the toilet. So the best person is one who controls him self in anger. Hadrat Anas: (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the messenger of Allah ( Muhammad( ) said: Who so takes up his tongue as treasure ,Allah will keep his secrets concealed and who so restrains his anger, Allah will with hold his punishment on the resurrection day and who so ascribes excuse to Allah will accept his excuse. So by reading this we should refrain from becoming anger. Because anger destroys one faith. The person in anger forgets where he is and says anything which he regrets after. Today people are becoming angry because of the lifestyle and the society we live in. When a person is under stress he or she tends to become angry because the jobs not done or their children donut listen to them. There become angry and the anger is taken out on the child. When a person becomes angry to their parent then that mean he's angry with Allah Paradise lies between your parent . If you treat them and help them then Allah will reward you in this world and the hereafter. But if you displeased your parent this means you are displeasing Allah then the person will be deprived from Allah's mercy. and the person will get punish in the hereafter. The aim and objective of reading this is to practice what has been written and refine from becoming angry. To become angry for Islamic reason is permissible but it shouldn't cause anyone harm. Women should control their anger. because anger effects everyone. So anger is lawful for islamic reason and if ones hourner is at risk's. Other then this Anger is not permissible. AT THE TIME OF ANGER As humans beings, we have our our emotions. We react in either positive or negative emotions. Sometimes we may lose our logic and we cannot control our emotions. Hence, we behave in a strange way. For those who lose control of their emotions and react negatively they have to be advised in advance what to do in such a situation. Our beloved Prophet () gave us a prescription that makes us control our negative behavior. By using it, we will not show our anger and madness . Our blood pressure will stay normal. All what it takes is that a person has to read the following statement at the time of anger and wrath.: " I SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM THE OUTCAST SHAITAN " ( THE WORD YOU HAVE TO READ IS IN ARABIC AND IT IS TAW'WAZ.) >From a personal experience, dealing with children fighting one another and >with family counselling, this prescription has worked beautifully. I >enencourage that we recite it loudly for at least three times at the time of >anger . Allah will send special angels to protect us from the mischievous >Shaitan. Remember what Allah said in Surah Fussilat ( This surah is in the 24th parah Ayat 36 in the holy Qurran ) the meaning is below ( Ayah 36): " AND IF AN EVIL WHISPER FROM SHAITAN ( SATAN) TRIES TO TURN YOU AWAY ( OH MUHAMMAD() ( FROM DOING GOOD ), THEN SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH. VERILY, HE IS THE ALL-HEARER, THE ALL- KNOWER " So the best person is one who controls himself in anger. When a person is angry he should make wudu (Ablution ) ) and then he should recite the verses from the Holy Qur'ran the anger should have gone away. The person should prey Taw'waz (aeo zo billahi mnashayta nirazam) and then prey ( Ayatul kursi) which is in the Holy Qur'ran . ( 3rd para 2nd ruku ) Every person male or female should try to recite the Holy Qur'ran everyday because by reciting the Holy Qur'ran it takes away the anger and the heart will become clean. Anger effects everyone it doesn't matter if the person is young, old, male, and female. So one should try to control one’s anger. There is a great reward given to the person who controls his anger. May Allah give eveyone the abilty to practices upon the Qur'ran and the way shown by our Prophet Muhammad (). SAYING OF PROPHET MUHAMMAD ( ) ABOUT ANGER. Allah's Messenger ( )Said a Muslim is never allowed to stay angry with his Muslim brother over three day's , because he who does that, then dies will go to hell ( FIRE ) . ( This is reported by Abu Dawood ) (Sahih Al - Jami ) ( page 7609). The messenger of Allah (Prophet Muhammad ( says about anger: “ Anger is the effect of shaytaan and shaytaan was created from fire. And water extinguishes fire." It is narrated in Bukhari that two people were arguing in the presence of Rasulullah ( ) One of the two became so angry that his face went red and his veins swelled. Rasulullah () Lifted his face towards that person and said to him that I know a sentence if you were to say it your anger will go away. The sentence is ( taw’wz ). The translation is as follows: “ I SEEK ALLAH'S PROTECTION FROM THE CURSED DEVIL" THE VIRTUES OF CONTROLLING ONES ANGER. There are many virtues in Ahadeeth recarding a person who controls his anger. In Tabraani . ( A book of Hadeeth ). It is narrated that Rasulullah ( ) Said : Who ever controls there temper Allah will take away punishment from him and who so ever safe guard's his tongue Allah will conceal his sins. In another Hadeeth which is narrated in (Tirmizi and Abu Dawood): Rasulullah() Who ever controls their temper in a state that if he wanted he could have took revenge. Then On the day of judgement Allah will call him in front of everyone and will give him the choice of picking the Hoor of his choice. So by controlling your anger Allah will give the choice of picking any Hoor from Paradise (Jannat). But today youngsters have forgotten the world hear after and there are to indulge in this world that we have forgotten the command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad () so from now on we should change our lifestyle. And we should live our life according to the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (). because success in this world and the hereafter lies in the command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad.(). May Allah gives us the ability to practice upon this ( Aamin ). THE REMEDY FOR ANGER SHOWN BY OUR PROPHET MUHAMMAD () . The remedy for anger is that when a person who is angry should control his anger . In the Ahadith there are three way's shown to control ones Anger. 1). is to say Ta'awwuz 2). is to doWudu (Abulution ) or drink water. 3). is to lie down on the floor So when a person becomes angry he should perform ablution. Then the person should lie down because when a person is lying he becomes humble because this is the quality of the earth due to it being low and not bursting. This is the opposite to fire which is the origin of shaytaan which results to pride. When a person is lying down he is far from revenge and retaliation then a person who is sitting is further then the one who is standing. In reality anger is a spark of fire and its flames are always bursting. The cure is that you extinguish t The person who is angry should make wudu.then the person should recite the verses from the Holy Qur'ran which is (AYAH KURSI ) which is in the (3rd para, 2nd ruku). by reciting the Holy Qur'ran the person with anger it will cool him down because Anger is from shaytaan. The person who is angry should be left alone to cool down and the above remedy should be practiced .The anger should go away. In the state of anger one should use the above mentioned remedy so that he doesn't regret later. Also Read,,,,, Coping with an Ill-Tempered Child http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LoveIslam_LiveIslam/message/90 Short Temper http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LoveIslam_LiveIslam/message/33 Anger for the sake of Allaah http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LoveIslam_LiveIslam/message/922 Permission is granted to circulate among private individuals and groups, to post on Internet sites and to publish in full text and subject title in not-for-profit publications. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LoveIslam_LiveIslam/he fire with water so that the evilness doesn't spread. i.e. by water it means to make wudu(Ablution). [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
