> -----Original Message-----
> From: Larry Brunelle [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Sent: Tuesday, November 30, 2004 7:10 PM
> To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Subject: Re: [XP] Re: Education and habits, comfort,
> familiarity, projected image
>
>
> aacockburn wrote:
> >
> > --- In [EMAIL PROTECTED], Larry Brunelle
> > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> >
> >> But I believe very many of us still think, or like to think, that
> >> we may avoid "all that sales BS". . . .
> >>
> >> "Now we gotta learn all that lying, touchy-feely sales stuff, too?"
> >> And worse, "I'm TRYING to use that sales stuff, and they STILL
> >> don't listen."
> >
> >
> > Nice observation there, and where it leads me is:
> >
> > If we learn to use that sales stuff well, we'll be more
> efficient and
> > more profitable and ... and the reason that we don't learn
> to use it
> > is ...?
>
> The reason is that (for some of us) we didn't sign up
> to play that position. Just as we didn't sign up to
> be interior designers or jockeys.
Absolutely right.
We come into this world with no instruction manual and we are molded and
manipulated by our family, our teachers, our peers and maybe more
importantly by our successes and failures.
>
> And we may try to adapt, but, gee, they didn't cover
> this stuff in school, so we may not know the scope
> of this part of the "curriculum". Or how to learn it.
Right. And in fact, we were discouraged from learning anything that wasn't
easy and natural for us. (And I'm saying here that programming was easy and
natural for us -- and an difficult and unnatural for the "people-people" who
went into sales or psychology, or the artists who went into painting or
sculpture or music or poetry)
>
> And, "If 'sales' was what we were going to do anyway,
> a) why didn't somebody tell us so up front, and
> b) why did we spend so much time learning all this
> other stuff?"
Exactly. No manual, remember? <grin> And no map, no "road map," no "secret
instruction book that would tell us what to do and how to do it to bring the
most satisfaction and joy into our life.
We're guided only by our satisfaction or lack of it in what we do.
So we don't have to study "Sales" or "marketing," at all. Most of us would
suck at it anyway. <grin>
And yet, just like the sales guy needs to learn some of that "computer
stuff," we can learn some of that touchy-feely stuff... not all of it, not
even a lot of it, but enough to learn the skills that will make our lives
easier and more natural.
So where do we learn? We find people who have consciously learned some of
these skills, and we "pair" with them. We find out who they learned from,
what books have "just enough" information...
And we find out that these skills make a difference in our life... our
relationships are better, our emotions are more understandable...
So just like the sales guy and the marketing guy don't have to become
developers, we don't have to become sales guys or marketers. We don't need
all those skills, and we certainly don't need their mindset. But we use the
juicy bits, the gems, the "secrets" ... just enough to make our lives more
enjoyable... maybe beyond your wildest dreams.
<grin>
Kay
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