[bfing] RE: crying babies

[ml obermaier]

hopefully it will be short lived, my girls did that around the same age, they really liked a reaction more than anything, you might try just diverting her attention to something else as soon as she does it.  You're being gentle with her is the best idea, keep it up, she should get bored and on to something else soon.  ml ----- Original Message ----- From: T Eli To: bfing Sent: Monday, December 20, 2004 7:20 PM Subject: [bfing] RE: crying babies Faith (now 13 months) has just started hitting - and she hits hard too!  She always slaps us across the face. I don't know where she picked it up, just suddenly started doing it.  I try to calmly tell her "no hitting.  Hitting hurts.  Be gentle." and I show her how to be gentle.  She does well at being gentle for a bit, then hits again.  She does this a LOT...any ideas??? Tami Spillman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: I am a READER and haven't read either one as of yet. But am seriously thinking of getting the toddler version myself! I don't know how or why I didn't read the first one.... may read it just to read it.... knowledge never hurt anyone right?? DD3 is still doing those horrible tempter tantrums and NOTHING seems to work for her.... I am talking to the ped. DR in January... maybe he will have ideas that I haven't had yet.... LOL. I think that she is just like her father and has a VERY demanding personality. UG. MERRY CHRISTMAS to EVERYONE! Tami --- megan kerns <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>wrote: > i loved dr karps 'happiest baby on the block' book. > it has been a great > help this first six months. has anyone read 'the > happiest toddler on the > block'? i am thinking about buying that one > sometime this spring. thanks! > megan > > >From: "ml obermaier" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >Reply-To: "bfing" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >To: "bfing" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >Subject: [bfing] crying babies > >Date: Mon, 20 Dec 2004 08:21:13 -0600 > > > >Someone sent me this from Dr. Phil's website, > thought it might be of > >interest > >The Five Techniques to Calm a Crying Baby > > > >Dr. Harvey Karp is a board-certified pediatrician, > associate professor of > >pediatrics at UCLA School of Medicine and the > author of the book and video, > >The Happiest Baby on the Block. He dispels a series > of myths about newborn > >babies and shares the five techniques to calm a > crying baby: > > > >Myth: The baby is ready to be born after nine > months. > > > >Babies are born too soon. Sure, every mother is > ready to have her baby > >after nine months, but babies are not like horses. > A horse is ready to run > >the first day of life. Our babies are fetuses the > first few months. They > >are not ready for the world until three months when > they are smiling, > >cooing and ready to interact. Of course, they have > to be born, it's not an > >option. But what a parent has to understand is that > for the first few > >months the babies are like a walking uterus. They > still need an environment > >that simulates what they experienced in the womb. > Ever notice how a crying > >baby can sometimes be soothed when you drive them > around in your vehicle? > >The vehicle is like an imitation of the uterus. > There is a rhythmic calming > >sensation that turns on their calming reflex. Other > ways to imitate the > >uterus: holding, dancing, rocking, swinging, white > noise or singing. > > > >Myth: Parents know what to do from the beginning. > > > >It's intuitive to want to calm your baby, it's not > intuitive to know how. > >Tha > >t'saskill.It'snotahardskill,butit'ssomethingthatrequiresskill.Babieshaveacalmingreflex,likeanoffswitchforcrying,anditcanbetriggeredbydoingthefiveS's.BRBRSTRONGMythSTRONGBabiescrybecausetheyhavegas.BRBRBabiesdon'tcrybecauseofgas.Sometimesalittlegaswilltriggerthecrying,buttheydon'tgoonandonandonbecauseofit.Andyouknowitcouldn'tbe > > >gas if taking them for a car ride makes them quiet. > Pain wouldn't come and > >go like that. Pain wouldn't go away if you turn on > a hair dryer, and yet, > >that noise can calm them. > > > >The 5 "S's": How to Turn on Your Baby's Calming > Reflex > > > >1. Swaddling: Wrapping makes your baby feel > magically returned to the womb > >and it will keep your baby from flailing his/her > arms. If not done > >correctly, the baby may cry even harder. Remember > to swaddle snuggly. Loose > >blankets may be a choking risk. Also, don't > overheat your baby. (Babies > >should never be sweaty and flushed.) > > > >2. Side/Stomach: Newborns are easier to calm when > they're lying on their > >side or stomach. This triggers the calming reflex > by imitating your baby's > >position in the uterus. Lying a baby on his/her > back can sometimes trigger > >a falling reflex and make your baby feel insecure. > Keep in mind the > >side/stomach position is great for calming crying, > but babies should only > >sleep on their backs. > > > >3. Shhhh: "Shhhh"ing your baby imitates the sound > he/she heard in your > >uterus, which was as loud as a vacuum cleaner. > Place your mouth two to four > >inches from your baby's ear and make the "shhhh" > sound. It must be loud > >enough to match the sound of your baby's crying, or > he/she won't hear it. > > > >4. Swinging: Rhythmic moving imitates the jiggling > your baby felt inside > >the uterus and activates the calming reflex. Ways > to use motion are: baby > >slings and carriers, dancing, infant swings, > rocking, car rides, bouncy > >seats. > > > >5. Sucking: Putting a pacifier, finger or breast > into a baby's mouth > >satisfies hunger and turns on the calming reflex. > > > >For more information about Dr. Karp and his > techniques for calming crying > >babies, go to www.thehappiestbaby.com. > > > > > > > >--- > >You are currently subscribed to bfing as: > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > >To unsubscribe send a blank email to > >%%email.unsub%% > > > > --- > You are currently subscribed to bfing as: > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > To unsubscribe send a blank email to > %%email.unsub%% > __________________________________ Do you Yahoo!? Read only the mail you want - Yahoo! 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