Hi Kent, > Straight for me is wanting to do the right thing because I > know it's the right thing and wanting to influence others > because I want good things for them too.
The key for me is not to presume that I know what is in another person's interest. If I want for them what they want for themselves, my coaching goes well. The minute I find myself wanting something for them that they don't want for themselves, my coaching becomes about me, and that's bad news. That doesn't mean that I necessarily accept what people initially tell me they want. A big part of my coaching -- the most useful part, I think -- is helping clients explore what they really want. But in the end, they (not I) define their interests. Dale -- Dale Emery, Consultant Collaborative Leadership for Software People Web: http://www.dhemery.com Weblog: http://www.dhemery.com/cwd Do unto others as others would have you do unto them. --Adair Lara To Post a message, send it to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To Unsubscribe, send a blank message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] ad-free courtesy of objectmentor.com Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/extremeprogramming/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
