Jim Grisanzio wrote: > Look, I know many scary-smart developers who are as strange as anything > you can describe. However, I only have relationships with and respect > those who treat me and others with respect. It's that simple, really. > All the too-cool open source rhetoric is meaningless to me if it means > that it's cool to be offensive. It's not. Now, I'd say that the vast > majority of people around here are professional, but I'm concerned that > the good guys in this community are far too accommodating to the > flamers. If you build a community that's based primarily on valuing people skills, you'll get a very different one than if you built it based primarily on technical skills.
"Respect" is a scary word -- usually it means deference to somebody who sees themselves as superior. That's probably not what *you* mean, but asking for "respect" gets my back up very quickly. Respect is something you have to *earn*, it's not given for the asking. Now, basic politeness should be freely offered to all, but that's a whole different issue (though possibly it's the one you care about; we may use the words differently). And I'm guessing, though you don't mention it, that you can deal with some rough edges, and some emotional involvement with the topic, and with people saying what they mean; you don't require everything to be filtered through layers of diplomats? It's also not cool to be too easily offended, either. It's kinda like protocol implementations really -- be thick-skinned in interpreting what you hear from others, and be polite in what you say yourself :-). -- David Dyer-Bennet, [EMAIL PROTECTED]; http://dd-b.net/dd-b Pics: http://dd-b.net/dd-b/SnapshotAlbum, http://dd-b.net/photography/gallery Dragaera: http://dragaera.info _______________________________________________ opensolaris-discuss mailing list [email protected]
