My mom is suffering from dementia.  Though frail, she has the ability to dance 
very well in an improvised way. Because her memory is virtually gone, and her 
cognitive skills are impaired, she could not do any sequence-type dancing.
I look for experiences that are within her capabilities, with the full 
expectation that she will remember none of it the next day.  "Enjoyment of the 
moment" activities such as museums, zoos, concerts, etc. are good.  Movies are 
likely not good.
In this dancing couple, the woman likely does not realize the amount of 
accommodations that others are making for her.  She has a disease, and is not 
at fault.   In fact, I find it touching that the couple wants to continue the 
But they really can't.
It is time to talk with the husband, to let him know that participation by his 
wife is causing the other dancers to have to support her. Also, his wife seems 
more frustrated and confused by the dances. You can say that while you treasure 
their participation in your dance over the years, but it may be time to stop 
coming to the regular dances.  Do your research, and see if there are any 
activities in the area for her offered by "memory cafes" or senior centers.
Good luck.
Dan Pearl

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