My mom is suffering from dementia. Though frail, she has the ability to dance
very well in an improvised way. Because her memory is virtually gone, and her
cognitive skills are impaired, she could not do any sequence-type dancing.
I look for experiences that are within her capabilities, with the full
expectation that she will remember none of it the next day. "Enjoyment of the
moment" activities such as museums, zoos, concerts, etc. are good. Movies are
likely not good.
In this dancing couple, the woman likely does not realize the amount of
accommodations that others are making for her. She has a disease, and is not
at fault. In fact, I find it touching that the couple wants to continue the
But they really can't.
It is time to talk with the husband, to let him know that participation by his
wife is causing the other dancers to have to support her. Also, his wife seems
more frustrated and confused by the dances. You can say that while you treasure
their participation in your dance over the years, but it may be time to stop
coming to the regular dances. Do your research, and see if there are any
activities in the area for her offered by "memory cafes" or senior centers.
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