Dear Raffi and whoever else is interested

First of all I hope your 4 hour os with the Chechen refugee women went well.

Here are some of my notes from the evening with the african ladies, experts
with traumatized people (both of whom know os; Marjorie also appreciates
curanderismo...)

Topics they spoke about:
Marjorie (she's coordinator for gender trainings at All Africa Women for
Peace (AAWP), Pretoria, South Africa. AAWP is contact and network for women
working on conflict resolution):
- women saw their chance in reshaping civil society and the liberation
movement put racist and sexist behaviour on the same level. 72 women's
organisations formed a coalition to speak with one voice and after elections
26% women entered parliament. Thus the new constitution includes a couple of
good laws and legislations to support gender mainstreaming. A lot to do
still...  especially on the political level women are the ones who opt for
nonviolent solutions...
-  post-conflict societies have a huge rise of gender violence.... one in
three women (including 11-12 year olds) is a rape victim..   an area worked
on is involving men especially so that they deal with their own violence.
- how to break the circle of violence, also intergenerationally: story
telling as a means of healing as well as art & crafts.

Bonny (she is trainer and head of INSERE, a camerun-based organisation for
developent cooperation, supporting the peace process in Ruanda):
- entrepreneurship - and the problems of implementing behaviours. Programmes
for changing behaviours were thought of, including cultural techniques,
storytelling, proverbs. Analysis (strength/weaknesses) with women found out:
before women can enter economic activities a lot of trauma and conflict
needs to be dealt with and managed. They've developed tools...  Discussions
showed that (financial) aid programmes produced dependency and lack of self
organisation. Programmes for economic development (1997) came too early
because people had experienced too much trauma. The best help: talking.  In
the meantime the alternatively developed programme allows the combined work
on gender issues, business, conflict management. There is cultural transfer
possible with that and quality control exists. A very important issue is
building trustful relationships.

more on the practical side and examples from both M & B:
- (B) no specialists needed, two ears are often enough! People learn to help
themselves.
- (M) Listening, especially in groups is very useful. Integration of the
offenders is an aim, so they are involved as well.
- (M) only guideline: keep on telling your story but take it one step
further every time. Smallest steps are steps already, like admitting to have
experienced/done terrible things - without further details.
- (B) draw images (i.e. ship, pot, mountain etc) whatever comes to mind in a
group and then select one of your choice to tell your story to, if you can't
tell it to a person yet. Later you might want to tell the group what you've
told your object of trust... if not, fine too.  Minimum time for such a
workshop: 5 days. Emotional themes can't be dealt with in 1-2 days... at the
end of the days there is so much trust that you can talk about things you
could never talk about before... others might want to stop earlier...
- (M) has less time, just an evening of trust building: people are asked to
paint 'what did you do'/'what did you fail to do' and share the results in
small groups. The next day people create a symbol made of clay for what a
changed situation could look like.
-(B) people in Ruanda are used to sing and drum. In a drum put upside down
the traumas get collected. Then people take turns to play that drum in such
a way that they express their connected feelings to that trauma....
- (B) every step of the programme is connected to the theme and stage that
is worked on. No theorization, no concepts, but collected representatives
(i.e. write down words, make paintings, use body language and anything else
that appears useful) are the result of the group to that theme in that stage
- (B) reestablishing interpersonal trust - most important

Q & A
- when asked whether this is difficult, Bonny said, working in Ruanda for 3
month is like working in Kamerun for a year ...
- (M) identity is the key word, not ideologies. This enables especially
women to stand up for themselves
- (M) community building suffers a backlash now, for the 'commission of
truth' pushed forward too early. They weren't  listening to the stories of
the victims

END of report

Since this is only from my notes any statements made should be checked with
their origins, Marjorie or Bonny (her first language is french).
Here are their contacts:

Marjorie:   [email protected]
Bonny:  [email protected]  or  [email protected]

I leave it all uncommented
with kind regards, Ilse

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Ilse Debler-Grant
Hamburg, Germany
mailto: [email protected]




----- Original Message -----
From: "Raffi Aftandelian" <[email protected]>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Thursday, May 15, 2003 6:27 PM
Subject: upcoming OS with Chechen refugee women


> Hi listers!
>
> Thanks for your interest and support in this upcoming 4 hour OS with
> Chechen refugee women. The longer I am here, the more I learn to let
> go of the way I would like to see things organized and done.
>
> Birgitt, I think the point you are making about getting permission
> from the women to conduct an OS is a very important one, one that gets a
little sticky
> because Chechen culture (like probably all Caucasian cultures) is one
> that highly values guests and goes VERY far (from a Western point
> of view) to be hospitable towards them. Your small question had me
> check and I clarified that while initially they were polite towards me
> as a guest, they later understood my role and what I was offering to
> them.
>
> I recognize that I have lots of learning to do in using OS and in
> facilitation in general (much in the quality of presence department),
> but my guess is something is working. I think that if the women stay
> for the full 4 hours, that might be considered a success. Live and
> see!
>
> best,
> raffi
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