Lisa's hit the nail on the head. Breathing is a good way to do it, because what you are doing is letting go of all that could-have-been's and might-have-been's.
I very much like the work of Byron Katie in this respect, who invites us not to let go of stories but to loosen ourselves up so that the stories let go of us. We all have little hooks that grab stories like "this could have gone better if..." Truth is we will never know. I find evaluations of that sort to be relatively unhelpful myself which is why I have reverted to using a really simple evaluation form for Open Space. Instead of asking participants what would have worked better, or what worked well and what didn't, I simply give them a piece of paper and ask them to complete the statement "As a result of this meeting..." What I get from that is a really deep insight into what REALLY happened for people, and it's always deeper than I guessed it was. While they are filling it out, I breathe. Chris --- CHRIS CORRIGAN Bowen Island, BC, Canada http://www.chriscorrigan.com [email protected] (604) 947-9236 > -----Original Message----- > From: OSLIST [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Lisa > Sent: Thursday, September 11, 2003 8:17 AM > To: [email protected] > Subject: Re: Chicago Social Forum (again) AND Conversing about..."the > right conditions" > > Dear Alexander -- > > You wrote: > So my question to you is: How do you reconcile an acceptance (or > appreciation) of what happened with an awareness of even better > potential outcomes, in order to learn? > > > My answer: you b-r-e-a-t-h-e. > > Anyway, that's what works for me. If I am really struggling, a walk is > helpful... > > Cheers from foggy Berkeley, > > Lisa > ________________________________ > > L i s a H e f t > Consultant, Facilitator, Educator > O p e n i n g S p a c e > 2325 Oregon > Berkeley, California > 94705-1106 USA > +01 510 548-8449 > [email protected] > > * > * > ========================================================== > [email protected] > ------------------------------ > To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, > view the archives of [email protected], > Visit: > > http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html * * ========================================================== [email protected] ------------------------------ To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, view the archives of [email protected], Visit: http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html
