Raffi, There is much truth in what you are getting around the verbal expression of aggression. I am not advocating the list as a place for the expression but I do think you are getting at something that is important and very human. A lot of neuroscientists, psychologists and biologists believe that human cognition happens within linguistic expression. I would say that it is not only about cleansing your psyche as you put it but about creating new understandings and learning. Speaking and writing are ways to flush out the relationship we have with otherselves and the way we integrate our own experience. Having that expression reflected back to us from others adds another dimension to our knowing. All relationships grow within the context of language. I use the word language in its broadest context as I don't think that language just includes spoken or signed word.
There are a lot of studies of aphasics ( people who can not speak) due to brain injury and the other cognitive abilities they lose. They are less able to reason about abstract issues such as the differences between socialism and communism or even what is a joke, scientific reasoning and most mathematics functions are also affected. To take it from the opposite direction reasoning about abstract issues such as ism's happens inside of language. Anyway I think cognitive dissounance occurs in relationship with language. We discover, fine tune and share our perceptual assumptions through language. I will add though that people who have experienced physical assault such as rape or genocide typically experience verbal expressions of the same type of assault as a physical threat and some experience it as an actual physical assualt. I think that the research shows that the response in terms of brain chemistry is the same whether you say it or do it. Once a trauma has occurred, whatever triggers the trauma registers in the brain chemistry wise as the same trauma. Additionally the brain becomes sensitized to interpreting experiences through that lens. I think it has to do with fewer serotonin receptor sites and more epinepherine sites. The long and the short of it is that you have less ability to experience endophorin producing experiences and are more sensitive to experiencing those that produce adrenelin. I think this is one of the reasons that it is so difficult to heal around issues of genocide no matter how long ago the physical genocide occurred. There is a tuning that goes on between generations if they still feel at risk and experiences are interpreted through that genocide lens. People feel at risk as long as the underlying causes of the trauma have not been addressed and the trauma itself has not been acknoledged. When that is occurring the genocide is actually experienced as ongoing whether or not there are still physical acts of genocide happening. I know here in the US there is a lot of dismissive talk around things categorized as "political ly correct" speech. The space that sensitive and considered speech creates allows those who have experienced trauma to recreate a sense of well being so they can heal and a broader sense of community can be restored. pat black Date: Wed, 27 Apr 2005 12:46:17 +0400 From: Raffi Aftandelian <[email protected]> Subject: on OST facilitator aggression, sexism (and all other garden variety and not so garden variety "isms"), political correctness, genocide, Raffi, Therese, Paul, Masud, and other closet OS listserv fratboys OR the wonders of opening space by pressing "Delete" in the ever expanding NOW Hi all! It came to me just now, Therese, the sprout from the then-ungerminated seed of a thought in the email where I apologized to you for my hurtful remarks onlist. I think there IS a place for verbally expressing sexism, etc. in this world. It would be great to become that totally enlightened violence-free feminist male. I aim for that. But everything takes time. And your replies from the heart nudge me further in that direction. But, occasional sexist remarks for me are fine, I think. Maybe not here on this listserv. I think that all the penis jokes and limericks are rather funny. But no sexist jokes about men are necessarily going to have the same punch as a sexist joke, because we live in a male-dominated world. Men have privilege. It is our jokes that pack pain. Making sexist remarks, I think, from time to time can be a cleansing process. I am not saying this for sure, but I am experimenting with this thought right now. I have lots of violence in me. If I choose to make a sexist remark privately, that is a less harmful thing than, say, giving a woman unwanted sexual attention. It is a safer expression of energy that otherwise would be bottled up. Now yes, there are lots of wonderful practices for working with aggression. And I intend to reread the suggestions and i am already in my own way working with my aggression and feel good about how it is going. I think we all have really powerful energies within us. I could call those energies my inner rapist, dictator, monarch, soldier, etc. If I say a few jokes (perhaps not on the listserv) from time to time, I think that's ok. Yes, thoughts are material, but if I express those thoughts to a few in a private setting, isn't that better than just bottling it up inside myself? I can only transform my inner rapist, dictator, etc. by engaging him, by joking with him, by play-wrestling him, to lovingly mock him, by dialoging with him, by offering him non-alcoholic beer and spice popcorn. I won't transform him by saying how awful it is that he is within me. Am I sad that I am so sexist? Yes. But guilting myself all over will not change the situation... And going back to what you said about potential genocide jokes. If that suits people to make starving Armenian marching in the desert jokes, go for it. I probably wouldn't want to hear them. But, if that would help them be less violent in some other way, I'd say-- "that's wonderful." If I am missing something here, help me. Bang me on the head again. And again. In the meantime, I invite Paul, Ralph, Masud, and anyone else who might consider him/herself a closet fratboy (or would like to experience the virtual open space of closet fratboys) to join the virtual OST listserv of my mind. This listserv has streaming visual and audio. We are in a session called the Watering Hole (a bar). The format is what I call "organized butterflying". Here we can shoot the breeze and also put it to paper in a report form. I begin our virtual fratboy bull session with a joke about the last Qajar monarch of Iran (the Qajars were the dynasty that preceded the Pahlavi dynasty, the last dynasty in Iran before the Islamic Revolution of 1979)...I'd continue the joke here, but it is a little scatological and somewhat racist (against Iranians)... With what looks like a little too much time on his hands, Raffi p.s. To the non-North Americans onlist: a fratboy is slang for a member of a fraternity. Fraternities are clubs/societies in college, usually residential. Fratboys have been stereotyped as big lovers of parties, alcohol, casual sex. 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