vbac pain

[jireland]

yesterday about 9 women met to discuss, debrief, share, gossip [all healthy stuff] their c/s and or their VBACS or plans for VBACS . What came out of the session was the total lack of communication between the labouring woman and her care giver the lack of support from hospital midwives and the fear of birth shown by caregivers . Then the lack of sensitivity and support during the operation and particularly in the immediate post partum period ie the time that belongs exclusively to parents and babies . The women very ill with PE could accept the C/S but could not accept the attitude of SCN     saying your job is to get well and ours is to care for your baby . Which by the way meant formula and not handling the baby as the midwife says that babies get very tired when handled by their parents. None of the others could accept their c/s but basically because of comments eg lets get this baby out through the sun roof,or lets bypass the vagina or to a chubby lady ho-ho you'll still be able to wear your bikini thats enough except to say we health professionals have a long way to go ---------- love to all those trying Jan